Random Horse Thoughts

Ricks Random Horse Thoughts:

I make notes sometime about horse thoughts and save them for later and after going through my notes, I decided to make a page with just random topics, thoughts, opinions and other horsy topics. No real objective here, just throwing out thoughts and ideas to get you thinking. I hope this page makes you questions yourself always keep an open mind with your horsemanship so you never stop trying to improve and to make it better for the horse.


The Chinese Farmer That Lost A Horse

The Five Monkey Experiment

I Am Only A Man

Yin & Yang


An intellectual is Not the one who thinks he knows a lot -

but the one who knows he thinks a lot!


Every horse, at least once in it's life, deserves to be loved by a little girl. While at a Mustang Adoption event, this brave little girl took a liking to Mr. T but was bit in the face by the last horse she tried to kiss. She trusted Mr. T and decided to kiss him. Kids get over their fears, while adults tend to feed and use their fears as excuses NOT to do something.


There is a belief that you can never step into the same river twice. Since once you step into a river you change it, you affect it’s flow, you change the soil and water mixture, you make a foot print and it is not the same river. The river is changed the moment you step into it. Hence, it is a different river than before you arrived and it will never be as it was before. Remember this in horses, “The horse you get off is not the same horse you got on.” After you ride or work a horse it is forever changed and hopefully that change is for the better.


The saying below often applies to different and better ways in horsemanship. It can also apply to horses that are very misunderstood.

”Great spirits have often encountered violent opposition from weak minds.”
-Albert Einstein.

Note: Maybe that is why I invoke so much anger and get so much hate mail?


This Makes Applies to Natural Horsemanship

Many people want to defend metal in the mouth of a horse or think painful spurs help communicate with a horse. People that jump their horses will tell you it is does not hurt them and they like it. These same people will call me and others crazy for saying a horse should be ridden bitless and without spurs. These same people will call Natural Horsemanship dangerous and not safe. Probably the same things were said to the Wright Brothers when they talked about flying. Just because many people defend something, agree, or make something popular, does not mean they are right.


The difference between a Master and a Beginner -

The Master has failed more times than the Beginner has tried -


The Story of an Oak Tree and a Willow Tree:

In life’s travels you can choose to be an a strong mighty Oak Tree that is hard, inflexible and will not bend or You can also choose to be a flimsy flowing Willow Tree that is not rigid at all, it bends and flows in the wind so it is not snapped off or up-rooted. The Oak can be compared to a strong willed person that is solid, or a proud strong horse, the Oak means what he says and stands where it stands without changing places just to be popular or flexible, sticking to your guns, so to speak. The Willow can be compared to a wise person who avoids all conflict, or a horse that has been broken and has his sole stolen, they never really takes a stand, will go with the flow, will not take a position and move with whatever way the wind is blowing. Neither way is best all the time. A combination of the two works well in life and with horses. Knowing when to be which one is the hard part.

There are times you should be an Oak, do not bend, do not compromise and do not allow the horse any slack until he knows you are the leader. In addition, there are times when you need to be a flexible and allow yourself to bend and change your focus and allow the horse some slack to try to make a mistake to earn his trust and show him you can be a good leader. The big challenge is knowing when to be the Oak and when to be the Willow. No right answer here, no book, no checklist, no video, just experience, knowledge, hard lessons and sometime, just good luck.

If more people thought about this, maybe the next time they catch themselves being a strong mighty Oak, they would evaluate the situation, look at it from the horse’s point of view and maybe think it may be a good time to change and become a flexible Willow. Maybe cut the horse some slack, let the pressure situation calm down, and let the rough winds blow by and give yourself and the horse some time to relax, so the horse can become a Willow as well. Too many horses are turned in to Oaks by other Oaks. Remember, a horse is a reflection of you.


23 Excuses That Are NOT True

It is not the horse, not the trainer, not the breed, not the wind and not the special dust. It is YOU!


I get many questions about fear. Every horse person wants to know how to get fast results with little or no effort and they will not take no for an answer. In fact, many will spend 10 years or more looking for shortcuts rather than investing a year or two in good learning and education. The following statement is what interferes with people and prevents progress with horses. Fast never works out good for the horse, the slow way is the fast way.

”In life Greed and Wants has to be balanced by fear………” Not controlled by fear.


A Horse is a Reflection of You!

I thought this was right on point. The person that did not take pictures thought the camera made the pictures nice and gave no credit to the person using the camera. The brand or type of stove has nothing to do with how the food turns out, it is the Chef that creates, prepares, cooks and serves good food.

When people that do not understand horses see a good horse, they see the saddle, the bit, or the breed. They do not understand that none of that matters, it is how the horse is handled and communicated with that makes a good horse.


The below statement is sadly very true in the horse world and in life.

”A belief in a supernatural source of evil is not necessary; men alone are quite capable of every wickedness”


A Horse can’t learn to have YOU in his space, feel safe and know how to act in your space, if you never allow them to get in your space and if you are always pushing them out of your space. If you trust your horse - your horse will trust you.


Horses Are Not Afraid of Water

You will hear it after every barn, "My horse is scared of water". This is one of those ridiculous statements that make no sense. Horses are not scared of water. Horses can be taught to be scared of water by insecure owners, or by being protected from water, or by being locked up in stalls so they do not know about water, or if they were imprinted by humans that are afraid to let their horses in water. Horses are NOT scared of water!


I can always tell how comfortable someone is with a horse by the way they lead a horse or take a picture with a horse. Look at most horse pictures of horses and people, you will see the handler/owner hanging on the lead rope or chain and making the horse keep his head looking at the camera. Taking pictures with you holding a lead rope or snap or chain so you can get your horse to stand still shows a lack of horsemanship and lack of understand. You should be able to get your horse's head where you want it - without a rope or a chain - by using feel and communication.


There is a book by Pony boy and in it, I was told, he makes the statement: "Horses move men physically and they move women emotionally". I think he states his book is to women for women. Funny women love this stereotype since it sounds pleasant, loving and sweet. However, if I point out negative stereotypes and they do not like it, I am called a sexist. I guess it is all what you want to see and hear. One thing is for sure, if you want women to buy your stuff, make it in pink and make it sound nice and lovey dovey, you may be an idiot and not know a damn thing about what you are selling or what you teaching, but you will sell a lot of product. Too bad women cannot see people that play to their sense of color and words may be worse for them than someone who does not sweet talk or BS them. I think it is better if someone tells you what you need to hear, rather than what you want to hear. I know that is what a horse wants.


Horsemanship - If It Was Easy, Everyone Would Be Good At It

The desire to learn horsemanship must be greater than ego, pride, winning, self-importance and other human emotions. It is up to you to get better or make excuses. If your desire to get better is above all else - then you learn from the horse and grow.


Find a Horseman and NOT a trainer. Do you know the difference? Trainers may say they have accreditation, awards, certificates, dress the part and will tell you they know many great well-known horsemen and studied from the best, but what really counts is how they handle a horse. What is a good process on how to find a good trainer? Too many variables. How do you know if he knows or what do you look for? You don't go by what others say since they may not know the difference anymore than you do. Does s/he get results, style, you do not know what too aggressive is or what too nice is. There is No pass or fail test, no professional standards in horse training, no oversight or review of methods, no safety records, no certification process, no license or stamp of approval, nothing, just word of mouth and BS words coming from mouths. What is a professional? By definition, anyone paid money for a job is considered a professional? Really, so if one dummy can find another dummy to pay them, they are a professional horse trainer. If you do not know the difference from a Horseman and horse trainer, then you are cannot effectively pick either one. Who is the best person to listen to about this, it is not a person at all, it is the Horse.


"Confucius states that a good man must know evil and not only strive Not to bring evil into the world, he must be willing to stop evil when he finds it. For evil to exist all that is required is for good men to do nothing." Far too often people look the other way when a horse is neglected or abused. Allowing this evil is not good for the horse or yourself.


A Good Bit

This is one use of a bit I agree with.


Watch your thoughts, for they become words.
Watch your words, for they become actions.
Watch your actions, for they become habits.
Watch your habits, for they become character.
Watch your character, for it becomes your destiny.


If you have never seen the movie “The Last Samurai”, this may not make sense. A line from the movie is “too many minds”. Meaning you cannot focus on too many things or you will fail at all of them. One mind on one thing will give you a better chance at success. Yet in horses, I see too many minds in new people. They “try” and focus on others, on clinics they attended, on what they read, on what someone told them, on what their trainer is saying, on who is watching, on what others are thinking and many other things. Too many minds on too many things. One mind on one thing - “The horse”. That is the first step to learning and being successful with horses. Too many forget to listen to their horse, for the horse is the best teacher of the horse.


Clean Water

Such a simple thing that is so important to horses yet is so often ignored or over-looked. This is so vital to the health and well-being of a horse and so many people have nothing but excuses on why they don’t clean their horse’s water. Here is link to my site where I talk about this in more detail.

Why Clean Water is so Important to Horses


In life and in horses it is - Dangerous to come to conclusions without any facts


Horsemanship is a strange art. It takes Consistency and Variety. There are lots of contradictory advice and information out there. Some is valid and accurate, most is BS and used to make you scared or confuse you, some is to make you think horsemanship is too difficult for you to know so you need someone else to teach you. How do you know the difference? With horses you start with consistency to make something routine and to teach the horse a habit. Then after you build the horse up and give him confidence, you then break up into small steps and change things. Remember, prior learning makes later learning easier. Once a horse learns to learn, then learning becomes easier. When you get a horse comfortable with change, he expects change and change becomes routine. Therefore, habits can be modified or changed and the horse expects it and accepts it.


Are these Horses Fighting or Playing?

I see so many people misread horses. Horses play, horses rear, horses kick and horses bite, yet when many people see a horse do this behavior they seems shocked. You will not see a Mare rear like this too often. Normally this behavior is reserved for Geldings or Stallions. This is the way boys play, they get rough, they try to learn to be dominate. They practice getting strong, learning fighting skills and looking big, that way when this is needed later in life they will be prepared. This behavior can be used to fight off rivals, to scare off predators and to fight for their life. People who react this behavior with fear, screams and think they have to save a horse from this, do not understand what it is to be a horse. A Horse knows how to be a horse and the Horse is the best teacher of the horse.


Listen To Your Horse

When you do not listen to your horse you get lessons and experience - When you listen to your horse you get knowledge and an education.

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Horses are NOT mean, they do not do things with intent to hurt or teach you a lesson. A horse will NOT do something to you. If you think a horse is doing something to YOU, then you make it personal and emotional, both are bad when working with horses. But Rick, remember what Ponyboy said, “girls are emotional”. He said it in his book for you women; I did not say it, so save the hate mail. If you try to make horses emotional, you will confuse the horse and teach bad lessons. They are a horse and that is all they know how to be. Ego, pride, wanting to impress or not wanting to be embarrassed are all bad things when dealing with horses. The sooner you get this, the better. A horse will teach you to become better, if you stop and take the time to listen.


DO NOT HELP OTHERS WITH HORSES. This is such an important lesson. The only thing more confusing and fear producing to a horse, other than one person trying to train or tell the horse what to do, is two or more predators doing different things trying to tell and confuse the horse even more. This never turns out well and experienced horse people know to Stay Out of the Way. If you try and help, you will cause the horse to react more, become more fearful and trapped, the horse will not know who to listen to and will feel more anxiety and pressure and will never get release. All of this will STOP LEARNING and invoke the Opposition Reflex.. Of course, all the life-long horse owners and barn managers will always show their lack of knowledge and lack of understanding by always jumping in with advice and help. For the sake of the horse, Do Not Help others with horses. Show your knowledge and understanding by Staying Out of the Way and Minding Your Own Business.


Get Out of Your Comfort Zone

Fear keeps people in their comfort zone. People seek comfort like horses; they like to be where it is safe and where they feel comfortable. They do not like to get out of the comfort zone for fear of the unknown. If they are not comfortable, confident and lack understanding of a horse, they will avoid many of the things I talk about. Only YOU can move yourself out of your comfort zone and to a place "where the magic happens". The choice is yours.


I often see new horse owners being made fearful of horses. This is caused by others telling and teaching people to keep their horse out of their space. This is the most harmful thing I see done to horses. People want a trusting relationship with their horse and then want to be scared of being close to their horse. This is a foolish theory; this is a thing being sold as safety. It promotes fear and is bad for the horse and horsemanship. I wish more people would hear and learn this message. Every time you push your horse away or out of your space you show fear, insecurity and tell your horse you do not trust them and do not feel safe or comfortable close to them. I am working on a page about fear, where I will address this topic in more detail. A horse knows if you trust him and knows if you fear him. A horse does not know how to be safely in your space if he is never allowed to be there?


Horse training and horsemanship should always be looking for better ways and never being satisfied with the old ways, even if you think what you are doing is working. IE: Bits and Spurs; many still use them and neither are needed and both show a lack of abilities in your horsemanship. It is like looking for a black cat in a dark room, it is not easy to find, especially if you believe there is no cat. Admitting that there is better ways for the horse is the first step, too many in the horse world want to defend what they do, since it is all that they know. When you question someone's belief system, expect a strong and often angry resistance. Stupid humans hate being told they are wrong.


Proper Horse Imprinting - Things a Human Cannot Do

I am very Anti Horse Imprinting for many reasons. When people think they know more about a horse than a horse, that is normally big trouble. The Horse is best teacher of the horse. When people try and remove babies from their mom they screw up horses and make horses suffer. I say it all the time, "Leave a foal with mom, period." However, there are still all these know nothing horse people that push Human Imprinting. Imprinting a horse is a cheat, it is a short cut and a way for people to try and rush a relationship with a new born horse. IT NEVER WORKS OUT WELL. You will have no problem finding people that swear it made their horse perfect and lovable. When someone tells you how great imprinting is, ask him or her if they sent their horse to a trainer? Imprinting by humans miss valuable lessons a horse needs to learn and these lessons cannot be taught by a human. The above picture is a prefect example. The horse is NOT being bad or mean or disrespectful, however if this baby tired this with a human, it would be corrected, confused or taught that it can do this to humans and later in life it would hurt a human. Humans cannot teach a horse better than a horse. Anyone that tells you different, does NOT understand a horse and should not be consulted for horse advice.

Here is a link to more proof and studies about how Imprinting is Bad.



Horse advice is one of those things that cannot be forced. There are too many that either don’t want to know, don’t care to know or think they already know it all. If someone is not open to learning, they will remain a fool and only a fool will argue and try to force change. It reminds me of the old saying: When a wise man points at the moon to explain it, the imbecile examines the finger.


Horses are Professional People Trainers

I see a lot more horses training people than I see people training horses. Horses pay very close attention and do not miss much since their life depends on it. This keen sense of observation allows them to figure out people, or as I call them "stupid humans", very easily. So when people call a horse stupid or crazy or say they can't learn since they were oxygen deprived as a baby, what they are missing is, the horse has them figured out and the horse is doing the training, not them. But that is not what they see. Just link in this picture where Pavlov thinks he is training the dog, when in fact, the dog is doing the training.


I like Confucius. I think he was a true statesman and gentleman that was very wise. I use many of his words when making horse points. I added some of him wise quotes on the cowboy wisdom page. Here are a few of my favorites that should make you think. Many can be applied to life as well as horsemanship.

- Those whose paths are not the same do not consult one another.

- Study without thinking, and you are blind; think without studying, and you are in danger.

- Cultivated people are ashamed to say more than they can do.

- Before you embark on a journey of revenge, dig two graves.

- It is easy to hate and it is difficult to love. This is how the whole scheme of things works. All good things are difficult to achieve; and bad things are very easy to get.

- Exemplary people concern themselves with virtue, small people concern themselves with territory.

Click here for More Confucius Quotes .

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Admitting that a horse is a reflection of you, Never blaming the horse and understanding a horse is a much needed step to progress in your horsemanship. As Confucius would say, "Real knowledge is to know the extent of one's ignorance".


Many may not know who Charlton Heston is, he was long ago a big movie star, he read this passage from a book called The World will Survive. . This does not have a lot to do with horse training, but it makes you aware of how small and insignificant we are in the Universe and what time really means. If you have a minute, listen to it (click on the above link) and think about how important it really is, to have a prefect horse that never makes a mistake? Is that really so important in the big picture?


Too many want too much too fast. Horsemanship takes years of trial and error, experience, learning, study and many many horses. Yet many want it and look for it in a book, video or clinic. Learning that Horsemanship is process and not a event, will help start you on your journey. If you cannot admit that you do not know it all, you cannot begin to learn new things.


If someone tells you something, you will hear it and may remember some of it. If someone shows you something, you will remember some of it. If you do something, you will remember more, learn more and understand more. Just another reason hiring trainers or having someone else work or train your horse never works out well for you or your horse. Remember:

"I hear and I forget. I see and I remember. I do and I understand."


Why I Have this site and videos

I think I know and understand a horse. I consider it a privilege to know this and I think I have a duty to pass it on. It is unfortunate that many refuse to learn or listen, but I am only responsible for what I do, not what others do.


Action is always faster and better than reaction. Think about it, if you have to wait for a horse to do something and then decide if the action is right or wrong, and then you have decide how to correct or give direction for the right response, all of that decision making takes much more time than being proactive. If you are proactive, if you are giving direction and already know what you want the horse to do, then there is no time wasted on the reaction process. Being an active driver is much better than being a inactive rider. One gives the horse confidence and security, the other builds insecurity, confusion and guessing on the horse's part.


If you watch and do nothing, some may think you are a fool and you do not know. That is better than getting involved and proving you are a fool. This goes back to not helping others with horses. Watch, learn, listen and understand. It is better for you, better for the horse and better for the other horse person.


Don’t wish for speed; don’t see small advantages. If you wish for speed, you won’t succeed; If you see small advantages, great things will never be accomplished.


Good Horsemen consider problems and prevent them. By anticipating potential problems or issues, you are prepared to handle things much better, able to prevent things and you have a plan if needed. Too many people with horses get comfortable, get relaxed and ignore all the signs that problems could be near, so when something happens, they are not prepared, they panic, they try and react and they make the situation worse rather than being ready to help the horse in a difficult situation. Pay attention and look for problems so you can be ready to help with good direction. Remember:

Direction is always better than correction.


Good horsemanship is a commitment to better yourself, in turn you are dedicated to the welfare and care of your horses. Never stop learning, never think you know it all and always be willing to listen and learn from your horse.


Listen to the Horse

Too often people are always trying to teach the horse. They are always training the horse, showing the horse, protecting the horse and they are always to busy talking and never learn how to listen to the horse. The horse is best teacher of the horse, learn from the horse by listening to the horse.


Confucius said “never give a sword to a man who can't dance.” This is about balance, good and bad, ability to fight and ability to love. It is also true that you should not own a horse if you do not have balance in yourself, in the ability to be firm and fair and or loving and stern. If you do not have balance in yourself and you are only nice and loving or only tough and hard, then you will never get the full pleasure of being with horses.


I often say that horses tend to attract people with issues? This always offends people since most believe they don't have issues or baggage. The Adamus Complex or The Napoleon Complex. is another thing I see around horses. Many people tend to want to prove something with horses. Since the horse is so strong, secure, peaceful and powerful, somehow controlling a horse gives people's ego a boost. Too often, it becomes more about proving you are right, rather than having a good and loving relationship with your horse. Do not be a "right-fighter" with your horse. It is not about you, it is about the horse. First, you are probably not right in the horse world and second, if you make a horse show you that he is stronger and if you make him fight, he will, you may not like the results. This link on Women and Relationships. point out many factors that can affect a positive relationship. The article applies to men and women relationships, but I think it equally applies to women and horse relationships. At least with men and women they both speak English or the same language so at least they can talk clearly and communicate in a known language. With horses, most people do not speak horse or understand horses so this huge communication gap only increases the frustration, fears and confusion, which usually results in the horse being blamed.


The above picture is called yin and yang (also Ying & Yang). , an old Chinese example of how things work. The outer circle is everything and the back and white are opposites, both colors are energy or force and they both need each other to become whole and balanced. So you can have positive and negative or good and bad, but it illustrates an important message in the harmony of life and horses. In this picture if you look closely you will notice two horse heads. The point to get from this is in all good there is some bad and in all bad there is some good. Balance in all things makes it whole. Just has no one should only be judged by their worst deed, a horse should never be judged by his past or his worst moments. All things need from other things, like a child needs a dad and mom, both give different things in different things in different ways. Horses need a mom and lead stallion to pass on things that they both have.

Time and time again, in species where the males and females are separated the young develop behavior issues. Keeping horses isolated and alone or boxed in stalls/cells is bad for their development. A horse needs horses, young, old, male and female. Horses need horses to teach them how to be horses. People CANNOT teach a horse how to be a horse

In your horsemanship if you look at you and the horse as yin and yang, you will know and understand how both are fluid and feed off each other. Both can make the other one better or worse. Both have good and bad and when put together you become one, being more balanced and whole. Seeing a horse as part of you and you as part of the horse will help you develop more feel and will help develop your rhythm and timing. You will be able to notice how you affect the horse and how the horse affects you. Both, you and the horse, can either help the other or hurt the other. The decision is yours. A horse is not your slave – a horse should be your partner = part of you. Meet the horse - Meet the person / A horse is only a reflection of the person / Fear promotes fear / You get what you give.

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"Luck is NOT a Strategy with horses."


Too many people have two speeds with horses, fast and faster. This is like fire and gasoline, it does not work well with horses. The Slow way is the fast way with horses. If you take the time it takes, it will take less time. Now with that said, some, mostly I see this in women, they tend to make so many excuses and claim to be going slow and caring, when in reality they are not progressing at all and actually teaching bad lessons and they are only going nowhere slowly. Going slow does not mean doing the same thing over and over and getting the same results. Fears keeps people from progressing or challenging the horse and then use the excuse they are going slow for the horse. Do not be a cheater and do not use the horse to hide or cover your weaknesses. Others will know it and the horse will know it.


This Photo Reminds of Horses Seeking Freedom


In war there is a saying that goes: “I would rather fight an army of Lions led by Sheep - than fight an army of Sheep led by a Lion.” This focuses on the importance of a strong leader and how having a strong leader can be much more powerful than having strong followers. Horses are strong followers, but they will not follow the weak and must have and require a strong leader. Moreover, the Horse does not give the title of strong leader lightly; it must be proven and earned. The title is also not given indefinitely, it must be continuously proven and maintained or the Horse will revoke the title. Another saying in war is: Sometime the best way to win a fight is not to fight at all. Even if you win a fight with a horse, you do not win in the horse’s eyes. In their world, they do not live in terms of wins and ego. Their view is about avoiding conflict, seeking comfort, the herd security and their own protection and survival. To a horse, they only win if they stay alive and instinct tell them to stay alive is to be spooky, not trusting and be ready to run.


Why is horsemanship a lost art?

Horsemen were common back in the days when horses were valued, needed and a way of life. Most people lived in the country and owned land and horses. People needed horses for their transportation and to plow their fields, so people respected horses and needed to understand them in order to get maximum benefit from them. Since horses were so common, it was the opposite of now, it was really hard to find someone that did not know anything about a horse. When horses lost their use, value and benefit - horsemanship became useless and un-needed. There may always be people that own horses or use horses, but true horsemanship is definitely a disappearing art and that is sad for The Horse.


I get a lot of questions from lots of people and they always tell me how much they love me and how good they think I am with horses. Then they ask questions that cannot be answered. Then when I tell them the problem is not a horse problem it is a people problem and it is their fault and not the horse's fault, they hate me and make blogs about how mean I am. This phrase often comes to mind after these cases:

People often kiss you before they screw you.


Is this Pretty or Dangerous? - It Depends

When people see a horse rear up proudly and show its strength and agility they think it is natural and beautiful. However, when they put a chain over the horse’s nose, cause pain, and trap the horse so it cannot get away and cause it to rear, then people call it dangerous. It is simply a horse being a horse; only stupid humans label it pretty or dangerous.


Beware of horse owners that do not own horse trailers. The signs are clear, people that buy a horse with no trailer do not think or plan ahead. They enter horse ownership as a hobby, part time or just to try it out, so there no need to invest in a trailer yet. They probable cannot afford a trailer, which really means they cannot afford a horse. In my experience, the people without trailers are the same people that do not provide good care to their horses. Not getting things like worming medicine, shots, quality hay and other things, and they are always looking to borrow a trailer when they need it. This is not responsible and normally causes the horse to suffer. When you have to depend on others for care of your horse, you put your horse in a position to depend on others for its care.

Never lend your horse trailer out. This is one of those lessons that normally has to be learned the hard way since most people want to help and be nice. I have seen time and time again when trailers are borrowed they are broke. People that do not own trailers do not normally pull trailers, so the odds of them messing up or having an accident are high. Things like cutting short on a turn can pinch a tire and weaken the sidewall so it may not go flat now but can blow out later. Hitting a curb can bend an axle or cause misalignment with will make your tires wear bad and will make the ride rougher. Many things to go wrong and I assure you if the people do not own a trailer and are borrow yours, you can bet they will not buy you a new trailer if they wreck yours and will not have the money to fix yours. “Neither a borrower or a lender” is very wise advice with most things and especially with horse people.


Just another reason I am anti-bit and do not like them.

This is a good video on The Effects of a Bit.


If you pick a fight with a horse, corner that horse and give the horse no other option, other than to fight, you will get a fast lesson in just how little you know about horses. You would rather drink gas and piss on a fire than fight with a horse that has no other option but to fight.


Don’t be a Taker. Someone who only takes and does not give back or who takes more then they give is called a taker. Good Horsemen should always give more than they take and leave a place better than how they found it. Horses have given a lot to mankind over the centuries and continue to give a lot. Good horsemanship is about giving back to the horse, making it better for the horse and passing on good horsemanship to others. This helps horses get better care and good horsemanship is passed on to future generations, all in an effort to make it better for the horse.


Listening to the Horse

Of all the things I have done wrong over the years, it was this that was the hardest to learn. As predators, we are in control, always teaching, training, correcting, telling and believing we know best. I still catch myself not listening to my horse now and then. This has to be worked at constantly and must not be forgotten. The horse tells us so much about so many things, but as stupid humans, we are always too busy, too smart and too stupid to step back, look and listen to our horse. This is such a critical error in horsemanship. A horse will tell you to slow down, that he is confused, that he is trying, that he is not understanding, that he needs help, that he is not ready and many other things, if only the stupid human would slow down and take the time to listen.


"It is a poor craftsman’s that blames his tools"

Horsemanship is an art, understanding and communicating with horses takes time, skills and knowledge. Since the horse is a reflection of you, much like a sculpture is a reflection of the artist and a student is a reflection of the teacher. A Horseman will not blame a horse for his failures or inabilities to be successful with the horse. It is the Horseman that is responsible for a good or bad horse. A bad horse was never born, they were made.


How You See Things Will Determine What You See

Everything is relative depending on who you are, what you background is, what you level of understanding is and what you believe to be true. Perception is reality. In the paintings above the Rhino is only painting what he sees from his position. Others see what he is painting differently. Who is right?


It is sad thing that more people think a Mustang is a car or a plane - than know it is a wonderful equine species that defies extinction.


Beware of horse breeders, they know enough to be dangerous. They may impress you with their knowledge of bloodlines, tales of confirmation and be able to explain why their horses are best, show you grand registration papers but their knowledge and eye is very superficial. Getting two horses to mate is not a difficult task and needs no human assistance. The long history of humans is clear – when humans get involved or try to control "Mother Nature" or make it better they tend to mess up more than they fix.


If You Think Can or Think You Can't - You Are Probably Right

Horsemanship is not easy or fast. You will hear many excuses for why people can't. What they really mean is that it is not important enough.


People tend to see what they want to see or what they think they see. What do you see in the picture below, Good or Evil? (Both words are present)

When people describe their horse or other horses they see what they want to see. If you see only good and peace in horses, you will notice that you put off a different emotional field than if you only see bad or dangerous. If you look for things, you will find them. Finding good in a horse is easy, but finding bad in yourself is very difficult.

A horse knows if you know.


I was asked what bit I would recommend for showing if the rules require a bit is used. Here is my response:

Sorry, I am a Horseman not a showman. My rules are to try to do nothing to the horse that I would not want done to me, cause no pain and cause no harm. The most important thing to me is “The Horse”, not the rules or winning. People with egos make rules and agendas for people, show rules are not developed with the best interest of the horse in mind. In fact, most shows do not even considered the care and well-being of the horse for any points, awards and they never enforce rules that protect the horse from abuse or mistreatment. Which is why I am not a fan of horse shows or any sports where money, winning or speed of horses are involved.


The Devils Workshop (AKA: Barns)

Barns, barn witches and drama will sour you and will feed over to your horse. Avoid and ignore barn drama. Try to stay away from others that want to spend time talking, sitting around and giving advice to others. When at a barn you should have one purpose, taking care of and spending time with your horse. All time at barns should be spent with your horse. You should be cleaning water, picking feet, grooming the horse, cleaning hay area, cleaning trailer, repairing fencing or gates or just watching your horse. The people sitting around and talking and just hanging out in the “devil's den” or “devil's workshop” (barn hallways or other barn gathering points) are the people normally scared of their horses and are not there for their horse, they are there for themselves. Another problem area at barns is white boards or black boards. These boards are for women (I have never seen a guy use these) to make petty and snippy comments about others, to quote foolish rules and to create conflict and problems and to bully publicly. No one cares what you think, "Mind Your Own Business", move on and spend time, effort and energy with your horse.

"Great Minds talk about Ideas, Average minds talk about events and Small minds talk about people"



To go to war with untrained people is tantamount to abandoning them.
To try and train a horse before training yourself is leading a horse to failure.



FEAR - HORSES ARE DANGEROUS - A HORSE WILL KILL YOU - NEVER - ALWAYS

So much fear in the horse world, don't do this, don't do that, be aware, respect my space, don't touch me, stay out of my bubble, keep your mouth off me and many other fears that people project onto their horse. FEAR is POWER; fear has been used since the beginning of time to control things. The Government uses it all the time to get people to follow the rules or obey their authority. Make someone scared and then tell them how you can make them safe and you can rule the world. Horse trainers, horse traders, breeders and people out to make money in the horse world has learned this lesson well. Make a horse owner scared, and then tell them you can make them safe by buying you gear or buying your video and watch the ignorant fearful flock to you. You can read more about fear on my Horse and Rider Fear page.

The more you understand fear, the better you will be able to control it and not project it to the horse. Control your fear and you will take the power away from all those life long horse owners and trainers that know it all.

Fear defeats more people than poverty, ignorance, superstition, ill health or lack of mental ability

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Learning to Ride Today Vs. In the Past


Doing the Opposite of What Seems Normal

I often say this a lot in Horsemanship - doing the opposite of what you think is right. Our training, life experiences, knowledge, understanding and learned skills may tell us to do things a certain way. These things can be right sometime and may be wrong sometime. Others may see what we are doing as odd or not making sense. Since we are predators and a horse is prey, we are opposite in many ways, so some time doing the opposite of we think is right, works out better for the horse.

We recently had some fires in my area and it reminded me of a story. Two men found themselves trapped on a hillside and surrounding by a raging fire rapidly catching up with them. They were running and running but the fire was gaining on them and it looked as if they were not going to make it and would be burned alive. The older of two suddenly stopped running, pulled out his lighter, knelled down and started lighting the grass on fire. The younger of the two could not understand what this guy was doing and left him and kept running. The older guy lived and younger guy died? Why? You see if you had any fire training and were older and wiser, you would know that when a fire is coming it needs fuel to burn. By lighting the grass around him he burnt up the fuel and gave himself a place to lay down, that was already burnt, with no fuel, so when the fire caught up to him, it would not have fuel and would burn the fuel around him and pass over him. This is what happened in this case. The man lay down and covered up with a fire blanket over the burnt area with no fuel and the fire passed him. His younger friend was not so lucky, he was over come by exhaustion, fell in the grass, in the fuel and the fire burnt him and the fuel he laid on.

So from the outside many would say only a fool would stop and light a fire when running from and trying to escape a wild fire. When in fact, doing the opposite of what seemed dumb, is what saved his life.

In many areas with horses, when you, as a predator, think you should pull, you should actually release. When you think you should rush over and help, you should stay out of it and not interfere or add pressure to the horse. When your instinct tells you to pull on the reins to try and stop a running horse, you should actually relax the reins and just ride. When your emotion tells you that your poor horse has been abused and you think you should be extra nice, you should actually be extra clear and strong with your leadership. When a horse pulls or rears and your instinct is to pull back, you should actually not pull and move to horse’s butt. When a horse tries to run off you will want to grab the rope tighter and think you can stop him, which will get you a nice deep rub burn. An experienced horseman will not squeeze the rope and will let it run through his hands, knowing he cannot stop the horse by grabbing tighter. Many things in horses is learning NOT to follow your predator instinctive reactions and to know how and what the horse is seeing and feeling and to react like a higher horse would and NOT like a human predator would.

Learning this can take many years, time, effort and listening to many horses. It is easy to see when someone knows this since the horse appears to understand, connect, and cooperate with the handler. Of course many will see this understanding and communication as a gift or special sense or some secret horse whisperer wisdom, when in fact it is nothing more that someone who understands horses and has trained his reactions to work with and understand the horse with timing and feel, rather than to blame the horse for his failures.

So when you see someone making a mistake with a horse, think, what would have happened if the person had done the opposite of what they did? If you take care of and learn your horsemanship, your horsemanship will take care of you and your horse. When you get better – Your horse gets better.



Maybe This is Why No One Explains Horsemanship Simple

Horsemanship is not easy or everyone would be good at it. When you stop learning, you stop growing.


Let’s discuss FEAR:

This is perhaps the biggest inhibitor to human and horse relationship. Both feel fear, both know fear, both react to fear but both fears are very different. A human is scared to be out of control, scared to get hurt or scared of what might happen, or what will hurt them. This is nowhere near the high-level fear of what a horse feels. A horse’s fear is about life or death. A horse wants to live and all their fear is to survive. This is why their response to fear is much stronger than humans are. A horse is born to live, survive, and run. They do not care about what might happen, they don’t care if they may get hurt, they instinctively run from fear to stay alive.

So when humans react to fear with aggression or retreat or confusion or frustration, the horse only reacts to fear to flee and stay alive. This is so misunderstood and it creates so many problems for most horse people. It amazes me that people want and expect a horse to deal and control their fear of dying, yet most humans cannot control their fear of getting hurt. Unfair and unreasonable, but only the human has choices, the horse never gets a choice. They are stuck with the person they are with and they have no choice for any situation they are forced into by a scared or unknowing human.

A fish does not know he is wet, just a like a horse does not know he is safe – is the absence of fear the same as safety?

Cut your horse some slack. They get scared, they react, they want to stay alive, (stupid horse) until you can control your fear 100 percent, do not expect or ask your horse to do it. Stop and think like a horse, stop and see things from a horse’s perspective not a human perspective. Understand what strong instinctual forces drive the horse’s fear and help him work through it, learn to control it and don’t contribute to it or make it worse. The best gift you can give to your horse is understanding of the horse.

The next time you get upset or frustrated with your horse’s fear, just think if your horse treated you the same you treat him when you get scared. You get what you give, would you like your horse to cause pain, pull your hair, pull on a pain bit, hit you or scream at you every time you got scared. I doubt it. If you understand the horse then you can treat the horse the way you would want to be treated, if you were a horse.


How does a horse show FEAR?

Let me count the ways. A horse shows fear is so many ways, some very subtle and some not so subtle or a combination of both.

Horse fear = ear position, head position, head high, tense body, bracing, balking, stalling, tail position, tense tail, flashy tail, eyes open wide, nostrils flaring, breathing increase, chewing stops, ignores other things, stares, hyper vigilant, blows hard, snorts, calls out, backs up, tries to flee or run, rears, moves his feet, fights being restrained, feels trapped, attempts to move to open areas, tail activity increases, shows resistance, stops listening due to focusing on fear and many other things. Yet people still say, how do you know when you horse is scared. If you do not know how to listen or read your horse, then you will always be guessing. Some time you will guess right some time you will guess wrong, that will only show the horse you do not know what you are doing and he should not trust you and you are not a good confident leader and that will only increase the horse’s fear and anxiety, which will increase his reactions to fear and will increase your fear and the cycle continues and escalates. Only you have the power to make it worse or make it better.

Don’t forget when a horse imagines fear, to the horse it is the same as real fear. No difference to the horse, they do not know the difference. If a horse perceives a plastic bag is a wolf that wants to eat him, to the horse it is a wolf, it does not matter that YOU know it is only a plastic bag. It then becomes your job to help the horse learn and understand it is not a wolf and only a plastic bag. You cannot lower a horse’s fear with pain or force. Remember that, PAIN never lowers a horse’s fear, it increases it. A little fact that most people can’t seem to get. Far too often stupid humans forget the push pull polarization of a predator and a prey. Humans must learn to think and be like a prey, it is impossible for a prey to understand and become or be like a predator. The smarter of the two must come down to the lower of the two. Too often it is hard to tell who is really smarter.


Success ?

People are always looking for fast and easy fixes for horses. It does not work that way but many don't have time to get there so they are always chasing the fast or easy way and that normally leads to failure.


Horse saying from past:

The saying “Don’t Look gift horse in mouth” came from being rude. It was considered bad manners to check the teeth of a horse that was a gift, since everyone knew that checking the teeth was a way to see how old the horse was. If a person was given a horse as a gift, it was impolite to check the teeth. Hence, do not look a Gift Horse in the mouth. It would be like asking how much a gift cost so you know its value. So the saying is still around but many do not know where it came from or the true meaning.


To see and listen to the wicked is already the beginning of wickedness.


The greatest enemy of knowledge is not ignorance – it is the illusion of knowledge.

Luck is not a strategy in horse training.


Critical Eye Reminder:

Always remember to use your critical eye. Look at things deeper, from different angles; be suspicious and more suspect when dealing with horse people. This picture was in a tack store. Notice the chain on the halter, notice it says Sweet Disposition and then has NOT underlined a child's horse, needs intermediate rider? ? What is really being said? I do not know the horse or owner but I would say, this horse is not handled well, not exposed to much, kept away from kids or maybe teased by kids and the owners could be either worried or scared of this horse.


KEY words should raise red flags to those who pay attention. Unfortunately, most people buying this horse will only see how well groomed it is, how pretty it is and will hear "Sweet Disposition" so it must be loving. Most people think they are better riders than they are, so no one considers themselves a beginner rider so they are either intermediate or advanced, so this horse would be perfect??? So the horse will be sold to someone who can't handle it, won't know what to expect and then will be labeled wild, dangerous or out of control and then re-sold to someone who is an inexperienced buyer only to be taught more bad lessons by more stupid humans and will told by the horse that they are not as good as they think they are, but the horse will get blamed and will likely be destined to be re-sold several times. Could this add just be a perfect add for a great horse owned by great and honest owners? It could be, but in my experience, not likely. If you are critical and do more research, ask more questions, verify what is being said and prove your suspicions wrong, then you are being smarter and better prepared. Or you can just think everyone is nice and good, no would every lie and buy the this horse after reading the add? Either way, the horse has no options and no control over his future.

I posted this on my FaceBook Think Like a Horse page and got comments saying the chain was just wrapped around the halter and was not hurting the horse. Here was my response to that uneducated eye: I don't care if the chain is lined with pink feathers, chains and horses are bad, chains cause pain, chains are used to intimidate or create fear to the horse, if you think that chain is just looped and is not used to pop, control or make sure the horse knows the chain is there and can be used, then you are missing the point and living in lala land. You are the blind man searching for the man with one eye. Grab the first blind man you see and ask him to lead you out of the burning building. Stop making excuses for people's ignorance, cruel techniques, dumb gimmicks and pain devices.

I took down the Facebook page, too many negative women coming over, complaining, blaming and creating drama. Got tired of dealing with it and of course women won't correct rude petty bully women since they don't want to be the focus of their meanness, so it continues and gets worse and since if a man calls a woman out for it, he is just a sexist.

Pretty horses are cursed to be owned by people that think looks equals good well-trained horse. Too bad for the pretty horses and pretty ponies, they are set up to fail for their beauty. This horse is very nice looking, that is all you can tell from a picture, but the words are warning you if you want to see it or hear it.


Trust Yourself and Trust Your Horse


Illusion of Control:

I talk about a movie called Instinct, where Anthony Hopkins lives with Gorillas and he is accepted into their herd and he talks about some very interesting concepts. A group of Gorillas are known as a band or troop, I think it is similar to horse herds, they have a hierarchy and pecking order, the males leave and the females tend to stay, they move together and take leadership from the Silverback (lead male), herd leader. In this movie the three things I think mirror or apply to horses are as follows -

1) The lead Gorilla watches over his troop. He decides where to go for food and water and he controls the band. Anthony Hopkins is accepted into the herd, after the Silverback makes it clear that he is submissive to his leadership and authority and then watches over him. At one point in the movie Anthony said, It is an amazing feeling to be watched over. Unless you spend time in a herd and get accepted as part of or leader of a horse herd, you may not understand this, but once you have been accepted into a herd of horses, you can fully understand the impact of this statement about being watched over or protected.

2) At another point he talks about "Takers". This is explained in the movie, but the short answer is those humans that take from everything they touch and never give back. Basically taking whatever they want regardless of the harm or negative consequences. The horse world has far too many "Takers". And since there is so much ignorance in the horse world, it makes it that much easier to take from the scared or fearful.

3) And finally, in one part of the movie the concept of "Illusion of control" is discussed or is taught. This is how stupid humans think they are smarter and always in control, when in reality, they are never really in control, but they convince themselves that they are in control. This happens with many horse people. They think a bit stops a horse. "Illusion of control". They think they are smarter than horses. "Illusion of control". They think they can treat a horse however they want and it won’t fight back or they think they can control a horse with force, fear and pain, both beliefs are dangerous "Illusions of control".

The movie makes the topics clear and if you get a chance, take a look, it is a good movie with a good message and it just might teach you something about yourself, stupid humans and give you something you can apply to your horsemanship.


What is a Red Ribbon on a Horse's tail for?

The cartoon is funny, but not knowing some things can get you hurt or killed around horses. Like knowing how a horse's vision works and where its blind spots are. Knowing that different horses are different learning experiences, so not all horses are the same and not all horses react the same. Knowing that being around a horse can be dangerous or safe, it is up to you. It is your responsibility to know what might happen before you blindly go around a strange horse. Helping, getting involved or handling unknown horses can get you hurt pretty damn fast and normally when that happens, the horse is blamed. Developing that critical eye and ear, never accepting anything for fact unless you prove it yourself, always understanding that horse are make to act bad or dangerous so never treat or approach a horse like YOU know what you are doing so nothing can wrong.

This cartoon plays on the ignorance of the little girl, but it does not show the seriousness of this topic. It still amazes me how many people want to warn people, hey that horse will kick, hey be careful that horse will bite, watch out that horse will rear. Really, you feel the need to warn people of these things. Anyone around a horse that does not know this is a fool. Why don't people warn people, hey watch out that horse will eat and poop or watch out that can run???? The people warning foolish things are just as foolish as the people needing to be warned.

PS: A red ribbon tied to a horse's tail is a warning to others that the horse is known to kick, so be aware and stay clear of kicking range. Some people do this since they get nervous on trail rides when other horses get close so this keeps horses at a distance, but the fact is the horse has never kicked. *Remember: believe nothing of what you hear and only half of what you see.

I am a big "Mind your own business". Let people be responsible for their actions. If you run over and try to warn or get involved, you may end up spooking the horse or causing what you are trying to prevent. So if you feel the need to get involved, you better be ready to get blamed and be responsible for what happens since you have a greater chance of causing problems then preventing them.

So when do you get involved? The short answer is never. The long answer is "almost never."

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Stop Nagging your Horse:

Here is my take on this article and how it relates to understanding horses and understanding that what we do causes our horse to do what they do.

An article that I found interesting was posted in the Wall Street Journal. Below are quotes from article about nagging.

"Experts say it is exactly the type of toxic communication that can eventually sink a relationship. Nagging—the interaction in which one person repeatedly makes a request, the other person repeatedly ignores it and both become increasingly annoyed."

The above statement describes so many horse trainers and horse owners. People continue to do the same thing over and over and never seem to realize that what they keep repeating is NOT working and that they need to change what they are doing. So the horse gets more confused, learns to accept the nagging and asking as something that they just need to ignore or resist. The horse learns to adjust and ignore. Then the horse gets label as mean, lazy, bad, stupid or does not listen.

"Why do we nag? "We have a perception that we won't get what we want from the other person, so we feel we need to keep asking in order to get it," says Scott Wetzler, a psychologist and vice chairman of the Department of Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences at Montefiore Medical Center in New York. It is a vicious circle: The naggee tires of the badgering and starts to withhold, which makes the nagger nag more."

The key to the above statements are nagging is a result of frustration, confusing and not getting what you want. How many horse owners does that apply to? Even if it does not work, the human continues to nag. Just like the horse when it is confused, scared, nervous, cornered or frustrated, the HORSE continues to resist, does not give the right answer and goes back to its instincts or flight, fear and fight. Neither grows or finds comfort, yet the majority of people continue to do what they do and horse continues to do what they do. Unless you can understand the horse has no choice and only knows how to be a horse, you will never develop a good trusting relationship with your horse.

"An extremely organized, obsessive or anxious person may not be able to refrain from giving reminders, especially if the partner is laid back and often does things at the last minute. Other people are naturally resistant—some might say lazy—and could bring out the nagger in anyone."

The above statement again points to YOU the human. If you are going to be around horses you must be more aware, you must be alert and ready to engage, act and react. You must be ready to give direction or re-direct the horse so to defuse the horse’s natural instincts to run and flee. If you do this with timing, feel and rhythm then your horse will feel safe and comfortable and will look to you for guidance and assurance rather than see you as a fearful confused predator that hinders the horse rather than helps the horse. The horse is a mirror; it reflects back what it gets. If it gets good it gives good, if it gets bad, confusion, fear, or insecurity, then that is what it gives back.

"But women are more likely to nag, experts say, The problem is that by asking repeatedly, they make things worse. "Nagging is an enemy of love, if allowed to persist," Dr. Markman says. As long as I am not putting pressure on him, he seems to respond better. "There's no annoying tone of voice or body posture. It's all out of the equation." The first step in curbing the nagging cycle, experts say, is to admit that you are stuck in a bad pattern. You are fighting about fighting. You need to work to understand what makes the other person tick". I don't take it personally when he doesn't respond." "There is a sense of recognition about what's happening," Mr. Egurbide says. "It's easier to accommodate each other.""

In the above statement the language is so horse specific, it is funny. The woman above learns that nagging does not work and that when she changes what she does, she gets different and more desirable results. Amazing, when she changed and gave different messages, the answers also changed. Brilliant, that is exactly what horse owners need to realize. Every failure of your horse is your failure. Every wrong answer you get is a result of the wrong way to ask. Every bad thing your horse does is a result of YOU doing something in a bad or confusing way. A horse would always rather to avoid conflict and discomfort. However, the horse has to be shown the right way to avoid the pressure or discomfort. When people learn this, they will immediate progress in their horse. Which is why when you, the stupid human gets better, that is when your horse gets better.

Below if the full article and a link, if the link goes down, you can still read it here.

Meet the Marriage Killer

It's More Common Than Adultery and Potentially As Toxic, So Why Is It So Hard to Stop Nagging?


By ELIZABETH BERNSTEIN (Reprinted from Wall Street Journal Jan 2012)

Ken Mac Dougall bit into the sandwich his wife had packed him for lunch and noticed something odd—a Post-it note tucked between the ham and the cheese. He pulled it out of his mouth, smoothed the crinkles and read what his wife had written: "Be in aisle 10 of Home Depot tonight at 6 p.m." Marriage counselors warn that nagging is one of the leading causes for discord and divorce, Elizabeth Bernstein reports on Lunch Break.

Mr. Mac Dougall was renovating the couple's Oak Ridge, N.J., kitchen, and his wife had been urging him to pick out the floor tiles. He felt he had plenty of time to do this task. She felt unheard.

"I thought the note was an ingenious and hysterical way to get his attention," says his wife, Janet Pfeiffer (whose occupation, interestingly enough, is a motivational speaker), recalling the incident which occurred several years ago. Her husband, a technician at a company that modifies vehicles for handicapped drivers, did not really see it that way. "I don't need a reminder in the middle of my sandwich," he says.

Nagging—the interaction in which one person repeatedly makes a request, the other person repeatedly ignores it and both become increasingly annoyed—is an issue every couple will grapple with at some point. While the word itself can provoke chuckles and eye rolling, the dynamic can potentially be as dangerous to a marriage as adultery or bad finances. Experts say it is exactly the type of toxic communication that can eventually sink a relationship.

Why do we nag? "We have a perception that we won't get what we want from the other person, so we feel we need to keep asking in order to get it," says Scott Wetzler, a psychologist and vice chairman of the Department of Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences at Montefiore Medical Center in New York. It is a vicious circle: The naggee tires of the badgering and starts to withhold, which makes the nagger nag more.

Personality contributes to the dynamic, Dr. Wetzler says. An extremely organized, obsessive or anxious person may not be able to refrain from giving reminders, especially if the partner is laid back and often does things at the last minute. Other people are naturally resistant—some might say lazy—and could bring out the nagger in anyone.

It is possible for husbands to nag, and wives to resent them for nagging. But women are more likely to nag, experts say, largely because they are conditioned to feel more responsible for managing home and family life. In addition, they tend to be more sensitive to early signs of problems in a relationship. When women ask for something and do not get a response, they are quicker to realize something is wrong. The problem is that by asking repeatedly, they make things worse.

Men are to blame, too, because they do not always give a clear answer. Sure, a husband might tune his wife out because he is annoyed; nagging can make him feel like a little boy being scolded by his mother. But many times he doesn't respond because he doesn't know the answer yet, or he knows the answer will disappoint her.

Nagging can become a prime contributor to divorce when couples start fighting about the nagging rather than talking about the issue at the root of the nagging, say Howard Markman, professor of psychology at the University of Denver and co-director of the Center for Marital and Family Studies. For 30 years, Dr. Markman has researched conflict and communication in relationships and offered relationship counseling and marriage seminars. He says that while all couples deal with nagging at some point, those who learn to reduce this type of negative communication will substantially increase their odds of staying together and keeping love alive. Couples who don't learn often fall out of love and split up.

Research that Dr. Markman published in 2010 in the Journal of Family Psychology indicates that couples who became unhappy five years into their marriage had a roughly 20% increase in negative communication patterns consistent with nagging, and a 12% decrease in positive communication. "Nagging is an enemy of love, if allowed to persist," Dr. Markman says.

The good news: Couples can learn to stop nagging. Early in their marriage, Ms. Pfeiffer, now 62, repeatedly reminded her husband about household tasks and became more demanding when he ignored her. "If I was asking him to take care of something that mattered to me and he was blowing me off, that made me feel like I didn't matter," she says.

Mr. Mac Dougall, 58, says the nagging made his muscles tense, he would become silent and his eyes would glaze over in a "thousand-yard stare." "Her requests conveyed some sort of urgency that I didn't think was needed," he says. "If I said I was going to get to it, I would definitely get to it."

Ms. Pfeiffer decided to soften her approach. She asked herself, "How can I speak in a way that is not threatening or offensive to him?" She began writing requests on Post-it notes, adding little smiley faces or hearts. Mr. Mac Dougall says he was initially peeved about the sandwich note but did show up at Home Depot that evening smiling. Ms. Pfeiffer sometimes writes notes to him from the appliances that need to be fixed. "I really need your help," a recent plea began. "I am really backed up and in a lot of discomfort." It was signed "your faithful bathtub drain." "As long as I am not putting pressure on him, he seems to respond better," Ms. Pfeiffer says. Mr. Mac Dougall agrees. "The notes distract me from the face-to-face interaction," he says. "There's no annoying tone of voice or body posture. It's all out of the equation."

The first step in curbing the nagging cycle, experts say, is to admit that you are stuck in a bad pattern. You are fighting about fighting. You need to work to understand what makes the other person tick. Rather than lazy and unloving, is your husband overworked and tired? Is your wife really suggesting she doesn't trust you? Or is she just trying to keep track of too many chores?

Noreen Egurbide, 44, of Westlake Village, Calif., says she used to give her husband frequent reminders to take out the garbage, get the car serviced or pick up the kids from school. "I thought I was helping him," she says. Jose Egurbide, 47, often waited a while before doing what she asked. The couple would argue. Sometimes Ms. Egurbide would just do it herself.

A few years ago, they got insight into their nagging problem after taking a problem-solving assessment test, the Kolbe Assessment. Ms. Egurbide, a business coach, learned she is a strategic planner who gathers facts and organizes in advance. Her husband, an attorney, learned that he is resistant to being boxed into a plan. Now, Ms. Egurbide says, "I don't take it personally when he doesn't respond." "There is a sense of recognition about what's happening," Mr. Egurbide says. "It's easier to accommodate each other."




Perception verses Reality:

I found the photo below interesting.

To me this is a really good example of emotional perception and physical reality. Women that do not have a baby will relate to the top peaceful loving picture and women that have had children will understand the lower picture as realistic. Of course both pictures are correct and both may happen, but neither is absolute or will happen all the time.

Much like in horses, many see their horse relationship as calm, loving, peaceful and harmony, yet in reality they have no concept of what it takes to achieve that type of relationship. A person who thinks breeding is important will find beauty in a horse with papers. A person that loves Thoroughbreds will find good in them, just like a person who does not like Arabs will find fault with them.

A horse is a horse and that is all they know. Seeing things in them will not change them or make what you see true. Loving a horse will not create a bond or trust. Believing your horse loves you will not make the horse better or more trustworthy.

There are none so blind as those who are unwilling to see. Breaking down our belief system is very difficult and does not happen easily. There are many strong and perpetuated beliefs in the horse world. Most are very wrong and hurt the horse. However, trying to undo this bombardment of ignorance is an uphill battle and many will fight to be right and refuse to hear another way. I say it often but it is still rare in the horse world, the best gift you can give to your horse - is understanding of the horse.


What I think about Human Imprinting

I get many questions on what I think about imprinting and how should it be done and when should you remove a foal from its mom. I think I have made this clear in my videos but just so there is no confusion. Horses are the best teachers of the horse. Humans cannot teach a horse how to be a horse. I don't like taking a baby from it's mom - a Mare knows when and how to kick a baby off, let them do it.

In the picture below is the only kind of imprinting I believe in and the only imprinting I am in favor of.

Here is a video I did on The Proper Way to Imprint a Horse.

Here is a link to more proof and studies about how Imprinting is Bad.



Why Slow is Faster with Horses:

You may have heard, and I say this as well, the slow way is the fast way with horses. However, what does that really mean? Going slow with progression is good, but not so slow that learning is lost. A horse can be challenged or can be bored. A horse can learn that there is a right answer so it will look for it and try and find it or it can learn that I just get harassed and pushed and there is no right answer or I can't find the right answer so I will stop trying to find a right answer. Obviously, you want the first and not the latter.

Speed of how fast a horse learns depends on many factors. Things like experience of the person, experience of the horse, knowledge of the person teaching, understanding of how to read a horse, how to talk to a horse, timing and when to give pressure and when to give release, smooth rhythm to work with the horse and not against the horse, understanding of how to know if the horse is confused, frustrated, bored, inattentive or if the horse is being disrespectful or resistant or if the horse is trying. All of these factors will either help the horse learn faster or prevent the horse from learning or will teach the horse the wrong lesson.

Secret Tip: If you act like you have all day it will only take minutes. If you act like you only have minutes to teach something, it will take all day.

So how do you know all this? -- Time, experience, patience, understanding of the horse and pay attention and listen to the horse. Of course, you may think you are paying attention and you may think you understand what the horse is saying and you may be wrong. This is why horsemanship is not as easy as it looks. Yet on every bookshelf or every video for sale or every special training equipment for sale, you will be told there are shortcuts or special secrets to get all the answers quick and fast. No right answers, no special fix, no secret trick or gimmick.

So has this answered the question or made you think of more questions? Bottom line - Learn to understand the horse, learn to listen and learn from the horse, then all things become easier.


Stalling & Locking Up Horses are Bad - Enough Said!

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Horses are Better than Humans

I try and convey this but as they say, A picture is worth a 1000 words.


I used to Ride as a Kid

This seems to be the universal statement for credibility in the horse world. From trainers to life long horse owners, this statement somehow impresses those that are new to the horse world. The next time you hear this quoted by someone sharing advice, please remember, this is what it really means. A very cute picture, but any idiot can tell that these kids are not Horsemen and this experience means absolutely nothing 20, 30 or 40 years later. Develop that "Critical Ear & Eye" so when you hear things, you can put it in perspective.


Not 100 Percent Correct

This is nice and it may not be the top ten things but it makes some very good points and hopefully when you read it you can look deeper and see what it really says. Like horse ownership is a long time commitment, horses need time and understanding, trust your horse (fear is NOT trust), a horse is completely dependent on you and it is your responsibility, a horse can fight back very good so you don't want to make it do that, horses can't tell you when they are in pain or don't feel well - Pay Attention, realize a horse gets old and things like sight, health, pain and abilities get old as well, and last but not least, anyone can buy or own a horse, but it takes a great deal of work and commitment to give a horse a good life.


Foal Finding Comfort

If you read my opposition reflex page I talk about a horse finding comfort next to a wall in a corner when it can't be next to mom or when confined by stupid humans. This picture shows a foal in a small place feeling touched and confined, much like it was in the mom before it was born. The Indians (Feather not Dot) used to swaddle (search Youtube) a baby and it would quite the baby down and a new born appears to find comfort in this close secure wrapping in a soft blanket. I think that is what is going on here with this foal. Very cute picture and thought it would illustrate "Opposition Reflex".

Footnote Dot or Feather: For those not from America, the Feather or Dot relates to American Indians or People From India, American Indians wore feathers in their head and People from India have a dot on their head, so when the term Indian is used, I normally ask, Dot or Feather, so I know what people you are referring to. Here I am talking about American Indians.


This is NOT Cute to Me

The above picture not cute to and is very sad. A baby that can't be with it's mom and other horses. A new baby horse that is being kept in a tall walled structure so it can't even see other horses grazing and playing. The fact it has a halter on left in a cage (stall) tells me the owners are clueless about how to approach it, catch it or talk to it, so they cheat the horse out of learning from it's mother and other horses, so it easier on them to go out and play and pet and "Teach" the horse their stupid way instead of the horse way. People call me sexist, but I never Men stealing babies from moms so they can handle them, I only see Women doing this. What gets me is if this is so damn good for horses why don’t people do it with their babies? This ignorance makes horses suffer and it really gets me fired up.

To me it so clear and simple, let a baby be with it's mom so it can learn to be a horse, feel secure and safe in it's new world. But these damn breeders want to back breed and get there mare pregnant faster, so they can have another baby to make money - all at the expense of the mother and baby. These are the same dummies that will tell everyone "the Mom rejected the baby I had to save it". NEWS FLASH DUMMY: The mom rejected YOU butting in and messing up the baby, you are just too stupid to know it.


Loose Reins and Sitting Straight

The above picture show a horse working on loose reins, no pain from bit and shows the rider staying straight in the saddle. I talk about this a lot; a good rider knows how to stay out of the way of the horse. In the next picture you will a person pulling on the reins and interfering with the horse.


Fear and Interfering with Pain

The above picture shows a rider who is scared and is finding comfort in pulling on the reins, confusing this as control over the horse. In fact, she is increasing the horse's fear, restricting his head, causing pain and making if more likely that the horse will fall. A horse's head helps them balance and transfer weight to stay balanced, causing pain and restricting the horse's head is the cause of most horse falls.


Using Horses to Sell

I saw this picture and think it is being used to sell coffee, but I found it very creative and well done. Thought others may enjoy it.

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I get so tired of hearing "My horse loves to show"

Showing is about human ego, it is about winning, it is about the awards and ribbons and money. I think this picture demonstrates this perfectly. This horse could care less about a ribbon; it does what it is made to do.


Meet the Horse - Meet the person

A horse is a reflection of you. A horse gives what it gets. Horses mirror us. If a horse is crazy, meet the owner. It is said many ways, but has the same meaning.


Learning Horsemanship or Showmanship?

This kid is proud of her awards and is learning to value them and showmanship. I only hope she is also learning how to care and understand a horse so she can appreciate good horsemanship. Kids learn what they are taught, much like horses.


Another Reason NOT to Halter in Pasture

I say it all the time, Do Not Leave Halters on Horses Unattended. There are many dangers that come with doing this. A horse can step on it or get a hoof caught in it, get it caught on a fence, caught on a tree or pole, it gives something for a predator to grab and capture the horse and as in this picture, other horses chew, bite and pull and then both horses are put in danger. Too often in the horse world "Cute" pictures misrepresent what is really going on and the uneducated eye, lacking that "critical eye" gets people to over look dangerous and bad things done to horses. Which is why the horse world is still like the old west, no controls, everyone is on their own and buyer beware. No controls on papers, breeding, ownership, certifications, licensing, sellers, buyers, traders, drugs, care; so horses are on their own and have little or no protections. In addition, even thou there are laws on the books, getting them enforced are near impossible. I think it is very tragic the way man as abandoned The Horse, especially after all the horse has done for mankind.

A society or nation can be judged on the basis of how it treats its animals and weakest members.


A Foal Leaning and a Mare Teaching

You will always here those life long horse owners telling "Never get the hind feet, the horse may kick you", this horse will not kick it's baby. This is what imprinting and weaning babies off mom steals from a foal. This baby is learning to be comfortable, to trust, to learn to feel pressure on different parts of its body, to bend and push past pressure, learning its place in the world. Somehow, stupid humans think they can teach this better so they steal these valuable life lessons from young horses. When humans try to teach horse to be horses it only teaches the horse bad and dangerous things, so the horse later becomes "a horse with a past and no future."

Here is a link to more proof and studies about how Imprinting is Bad.



A Horse Shares Heat with a Cat

Just another example of why horses are better than humans. Selfless sharing and giving without expecting anything in return. Although I think, both animals are giving here and both are receiving. Ying and Yang will keep things balanced. Horses are big, strong and powerful, yet they never use those things to take or to do harm. That makes them smarter and kinder than mankind in many ways.


I Always Hear from the Lifelong Horse Owners

Never let a foal by other Horses - they will kill it.

A really nice example of Proper Imprinting = No Humans. These horses are not a threat to this foal. Horses know more than humans about horses. I know this is not popular in the horse world of Barn Witches, Barn Managers and Know-it-all horse owners, but it is true. I know I say it a lot but the message is still lost in the horse world. Somewhere, right now, there is a woman looking at this picture thinking she needs to clean this colt and help it stand up and keep the other horses away so they do not hurt it. She is wrong, but she will do her best to convince others she knows better than the horse. Pay attention, don't be fooled and always remember,
"The Horse is the Best Teacher of the Horse."


Horses Being Horses

This was taken in June 2012 in Colorado. The fires were burning wild and destroyed many homes and lots of land. These horses were instinctively moving away from the fires. The horses that were locked up in barns or stalls died in the fire. Keeping horses in pasture is better and safer for you horses. When people try to protect horses they end up making it worse for the Horse.


Horse Attributes

This says it nicely. Many see a horse and see big, dumb, working creatures to be used in any way that man decides. Where ever you see Man's footprint, you will see hoof prints beside them.


Tale of Two Wolves - Ying & Yang

In all Good there is Bad and In all Bad there is Good. When you see a horse remember that if you feed what you see as bad it will grow and if you feed what is good in the horse, it will grow.


Critical Eye - Seeing Things from the Horse

This picture is a picture. Humans label it as cute, bad, or stupid. The educated horse people, with their critical eye, will see reality. The cute horse, is the innocent horse, the standing cute, lack of fear and pure look of the horse, you know that the horse sees nothing wrong with what he did and cannot understand bad or good. The cute horse is innocent and means no harm.

The bad and stupid horse tore the door up. That horse is not smart enough to keep his head out of the door and not pull back hard. The stupid horse destroyed a good door and cost people money. That horse must have bad breeding or poor training.

People that understand horses will see this both as a horse and how they caused it. The horse was being curious and that is what horses do. The horse was exploring or testing. The horse did nothing right or wrong or good or bad, the horse was being a horse and that is all a horse knows how to be. Humans caused this. The horse was not prevented from gaining access to the door. The horse was allowed to stick his head in the door; the horse was put into a situation where it could not leave so it only had the area it had to explore. The horse learned that it could tear a door up, it learned to pull hard when trapped. The horse was set up to fail and it learned the lesson well. What do you see when you look at this picture?


Horsy Paradox

"This is an Unfortunate Paradox for the Horse"

- We have bigger barns and smaller minds

- We have more physically healthy horses, but less mentally healthy horses

- We have more knowledge about horses, but less common sense in horses

- We know bits in the mouth hurt our horses, but more people that need bigger bits

- More people love their horses, but less people understand their horses

- People spend more money on their horse, but people spend less time with their horse

- We have new knowledge and technology, but people still want to defend the old ways

- More money is spent on horses than ever before, yet more horses go to slaughter than ever before

- More people want horses, but less people need horses

- People are attracted to horses for the freedom and natural beauty – And more people want to lock up horses and try to improve their natural beauty

- We have easier access to horse information and less time to access that information

- Horses have been raising horses perfectly for years –
Now people think the horses do it wrong and they can do it better

- Horsemanship and care of the horse used to be valued-
Now breeding and winning is more valued

- When a horse is needed, they are valued – When a horse is a luxury, they are unappreciated

- When horses were building America and mankind needed them they were admired –
Now that America is built and mankind is advanced, they are a burden


Why Horses Are Not Stupid

A fish cannot climb a tree. Most people know this and accept this. A horse cannot talk English (or any other human language). I know this will shock many people, but it is as true as a fish cannot climb a tree. A horse cannot know what you want, what you wish or what you mean. I am sure another shocker for many.

It bugs me to hear people label and call Horses stupid. People cannot seem to realize, “the Horse” should only be judged from the standard of a horse. Humans judge things from their perspective. Many see a horse as a pet like a dog or cat. A dog or cat is very different from a horse. The biggest difference I see is the “FEAR." A dog or cat cannot kill you by accident and they cannot cripple you for life. The large size, strength and gentleness of horses draw people to them, and these same things push or keep people at a distance. The horse sees this fear as confusion, weakness or lack of leadership and trust. A phenomenon many people experience.

Horses can run, jump, survive in the wild, raise their young and thrive in the wild without human involvement. They are exceptional at living in a herd, protecting their young and being horses. It is only when humans get involved and tries to improve or teach a horse to be domesticated, that the horse fails. It is only when the humans try to teach horses better that they suffer and fail. The success of the horse is unchallenged as long as humans stay out of it. If I were to judge a human compared to a horse, the human would fail every time. A human cannot run as fast a horse, cannot jump as far, cannot communicate as well as the horse, cannot smell as good as a horse, cannot hear as good, cannot work as hard, cannot pull or carry as much and cannot be as forgiving as the horse. I think humans know that horses are better, which is why humans are so attracted to horses, since opposites attract and people seek in others what they lack themselves. Weak people tend to have strong friends or partners, sometime to the extreme. I have been known to say "Horse people have issues." Many people write me and agree with that, but most all think they are exception to this rule. People that collect horses normally have more issues, RE: the “Buck Movie” lady.

I digress; the point of this is to remind people that horses are fine without us. Horses only fail with the help of humans. Lastly, when judging a horse as right or wrong, or good or bad, remember “Your horse is only a horse and that is all it knows how to be.”


Look – NO BIT

This is for all those people that want to feed their fear and convince themselves that a bit controls a horse and that they need a bit since the horse is big and strong. I say it 1000 times, bits DO NOT control horses. Bits cause pain and give the perception of control.


A Horse Will Never break Your Heart

Nice picture and sounds nice. This is a subliminal message that wants to appeal to the emotional love of a horse, yet it adds some fear reality. When you buy a car, do they say it rides great but you it can blow up and burn in a crash? Only in horses do people look at their beauty and grace and fail to see them for what they are. A horse is only a horse and that is all it knows how to be. A lady wrote me and asked me how make her horse safe, since she did not want to hurt. I told her if she wants safe, she needs to play checkers. Horses are large, 1200 pound of pure muscle, bone and fear reactions, so if you want something to sit on your lap and love you, a horse is should not be your first choice. Horses are great but they are not on the short list of safe things, especially when fear is involved.

I have yet to meet a fearful horse that did not have a fearful rider. A horse is a reflection, it gives what it gets, it does not care about right or wrong, it seeks comfort and avoids pressure. Too often people want to make a horse what they want them to be or what they think it should be. Seeing a horse as anything but a horse, sets you and the horse up to fail. Horsemanship is not a success only journey


Real Horse Imprinting

So many things that humans cannot teach a horse, yet many humans still think they know better than a horse.

If people would just remember, the horse is the best teacher of the horse. When people stop trying to teach a horse so much, perhaps they will stop, listen and learn from the horse.


Another Side of Horse Sports

When people to horse horses shows and events, many do not think about what a horse goes through just to be in a show. Either there is the shoeing, the travel time, time in a restrictive trailer or in an aircraft; it is still stress on a horse. Anytime a horse is moved there are many stresses that are put on the horse. Things like change in food, water, environment and other things. When a horse is stressed, it changes his systems, he is more prone to colic, his immune system is compromised, his inability to move or walk around or graze all creates stress. Then you add in that many people drug a horse for trips for either for stress or motion sickness and that is never good for a horse.

I said it before when money, winning or speed is involved horses pay a the price.


What a Nice Fluffy Soft Halter

It is things like this that just kill me. This is an extreme case, but I see the same thing at a smaller level all the time. You can see the fluffy halter, which “Implies” love, and caring and then you see how the horse was starved to death. In addition, what irritates me more is there will always someone who will defend this, as the owner did not know, they tried, no one told them, all a bunch of BS excuses. Ray Charles could see this horse was dying and being starved. I get so tried of people saying the love their horse and then put a stud chain on the horse to hurt it. They say they love it and then put a Tom Thumb bit in the mouth. They say they love their horse and then make them drink dirty filthy water. They say they love their horse and then leave it locked in a cage and call it a stall. The problem with horsemanship today is people love the idea of owning a horse, but do not understand where the horse is coming from.


Looks Funny - But is Still Dangerous

This woman is probably having her menstrual cycle and the horse smells. Obviously, this horse is NOT being controlled or has been taught that he can do what he wants. Not sure who is controlling the horse or even trying to stop the horse. I would bet some warning signs were ignored or was not recognized. This horse probably was smelling, getting pushy, crowding, head pushing, dropping and other things, but either no one was paying attention or they did not know what they were seeing. Now a horse has learned that it can jump on humans and that is not a good thing to teach horses.


Stop Stupid Traditions Like Bits and Spurs

The Old ways are in every discipline. Tradition and Rules keep people from progressing. Do better by your horse, be different.



Fear = Regret

Fear is the most common question I get. Fear will stop most all progress with horses. Only YOU can over come your fear.


The Slow Way is Fast Way

Too often I get questions about why something is taking so long. People misunderstand the slow is fast way and somehow think if slow is good slower is better. If you are not showing progress you are going too slow.


Don't Listen to Bad Advice

Those who cannot do something will always tell others it cannot be done or it is dangerous and should not be done. Don't let others project their fears, insecurities and ignorance dictate what you do.



Do not Try to Fly and Give Advice

This is what happens when some people are too busy giving advice when they should be paying attention to what they are doing and minding their own business.


It is Never the Horse's Fault

Your horse, your responsibility. If your horse gets hurt or gives you the wrong answer or hurts you, look in the mirror. When you realize it is you, you will change and you will improve and then your horse will improve.


Stop Making Excuses

It is not the horse, not the trainer, not the breed, not the wind and not the special dust. It is YOU!


Mind Your Own Business

There is nothing like giving bad or wrong advice and watching people fail and then saying it is not your fault. Better yet, giving good advice and then having someone do it wrong and get hurt and then trying to explain to them that they did it wrong. Mind your own business, it is better for you, others and The Horse.


Experience is the Best Teacher

I have said it before, a person may say and think they have 10 years of experience when in fact they only have one year experience 10 times. In the horse world, many people confuse owning horses as knowledge or experience with horses. I know people who have a owned a horse one year and they have more experience than people that have owned horses their entire lives. Don't be fooled, listen to the horse, a horse will tell you if someone knows or if they say they know.


What Horses Think

This is what horses think when they meet new people. Until you show a horse that you know and understand them, they don't care what you think you know. A horse knows if you know and he knows when don't.


Closed Minds

The horse world is full of know-it-all people that don't know much. The old saying "A shallow brook is noisiest" really holds true in the horse world. Believe nothing of what you hear and only half of what you see.


It is Dangerous to Ride Without a Bit

This is a great picture that demonstrates shows another example that you don't need bits to control things. The title is me being sarcastic since that is what all the people, who are scared to ride without a bit, will tell you. A bit is a false belief that you have control, too bad horses are forgiving and allow it more than not.


Two Prey Herd Animals Sharing Safety and Comfort

There is nothing like giving bad or wrong advice and watching people fail and then saying it is not your fault. Better yet, giving good advice and then having someone do it wrong and get hurt and then trying to explain to them that they did it wrong. Mind your own business, it is better for you, others and The Horse.


Good Advice


On Giving Advice


Dangerous Stupid Foal ?

The picture below shows the trust and comfort a foal feels close to his mom. It also shows that a full size horse is NOT stupid and knows how to move slow and careful and not trample, hurt or kill the foal. Many life-long horse owners that are full of free unwanted advice will see this and will want to tell you how dangerous this is, how this foal is in danger, how this foal could get hurt and how this foal should be removed from it's mom to protect it. This idiotic belief is so wide spread in the horse world that most new people think it is normal and must be right since everyone says it. Horses are the best teachers of the horse. STOP trying to save horses from horses, they only need saving from ignorant stupid humans.


This is why Horse Shelters are Full and Trainers have lots of work

We live in a world where risk and danger is something to fear and avoid. The masses have bought into this liberal crap of protecting everything and everybody from anything and everything. Kids are being raised with a bunch of rights and have no accountability or responsibility. Life has consequences, choices have consequences, when you choose the behavior you choose the consequence. This lesson is not being taught; a kid can't ride a tricycle without a helmet and knee pads. The kid is being cheated of the lesson of skinned knees and consequences to his actions. Now we have women who rode a pony has a kid and suddenly they are told they are equal to men and can ride rodeo, so they get into horses with no concept of how much work, knowledge, balance, timing, experience and time that it takes and then when they fail. So they have trainers and special tack makers telling them it is the bit or lead rope or the horse or 1000 other excuses, so they continue to try any and everything, thinking it is not them. So these same people run around looking for short cuts, fast answers, cheats, gimmicks, extra SAFETY GEAR, and they spend tons of money looking from some special secrets only to get discouraged and either live in fear of horses or get out of horses all together. It is NOT the horse that make a horse dangerous, it is the people that don't understand them or have unfair expectations from all the BS being repeated by the ignorant.

Some say I pick on women or hate women. I dislike stupid ignorant people that blame others and refuse to see the truth, man or woman. Ignorance seems to be a trend in the horse world. I think anyone can be successful with horses if they admit they are the problem - Not the horse, swallow their ego and invest the time to learn and understand the horse. This mindset makes it better for the horse and human. I try and be a voice for the horse, since the horse has no voice to those that are convinced they are smarter than a horse and refuse to learn from the horse.


In the horse world there is huge deceit, misinformation and wrong beliefs. When I or others try and speak for the horse and for truth, people see it as an attack on their beliefs. So their first instinct is to defend what they think they know. It is not that your beliefs are wrong that is the problem, it is that you believe they are right.


Too often I see unhappy horse owners with their horse - I normally contribute it to fear caused by lack of understanding.


A horse is a reflection of you - Look in the mirror to see your horse.


Youth is inexperience - Learn to look for the problems in yourself.


Horses keep us honest and know what is going to happen before it happens. You cannot hide your fear or lack of understanding from a horse - they know.


Many don't understand the horse's way, so they fear it. That is not good for the horse or them.


Too many horse people reject what they do not know or understand. Things like horses need a bit and natural horsemanship does not work. Fear of the unknown and controlled fear of what they think is normal.



This is why I don't like trainers or people that only know what others tell them. If you learn to understand a horse, you will not need to listen to what others tell you.


Horses do not care what you say - they only care what you do since that is what they see.



Do not follow someone blindly or think their way is the only way - when in doubt - listen to your horse.


The Story of the Snake and the Rabbit:

Once there was this rabbit and snake that met at the edge of the river. Both needed to get across to the other side. Since the snake could not swim, he asked the rabbit if he would let him ride on his back to get across the river.

The rabbit said no way, I know what you are up to, you want to get on my back so you can bite me. The protested and said he would not bite him since if he bit him, they would both drown. The rabbit thought about it and agreed to carry the snake across the river.

The snake got on the rabbits back and the rabbit started swimming across the river. As they got to the middle of the river, the snake bit the rabbit.

The rabbit was shocked and confused and asked the snake, why did you bite me, now we both are going to die. The snake replied, “I can’t help it, it is my nature.”

It is a horse’s nature to be fearful and careful. It does not trust new things because their instinct says stay alive be ready to run and do not be cornered or trapped. Almost all things we do to a horse is against its nature, so have patience and understanding. Realize and accept that the horse is not being mean or stupid, it is being a horse and that is its nature.


Horses respond better to the Sheepdog, fears the wolf and does not respect the sheep.

On Sheep, Wolves, and Sheepdogs - Dave Grossman
By LTC (RET) Dave Grossman, author of "On Killing."

Honor never grows old, and honor rejoices the heart of age. It does so because honor is, finally, about defending those noble and worthy things that deserve defending, even if it comes at a high cost. In our time, that may mean social disapproval, public scorn, hardship, persecution, or as always, even death itself. The question remains: What is worth defending? What is worth dying for? What is worth living for? - William J. Bennett - in a lecture to the United States Naval Academy November 24, 1997.

One Vietnam veteran, an old retired colonel, once said this to me: "Most of the people in our society are sheep. They are kind, gentle, productive creatures who can only hurt one another by accident." This is true. Remember, the murder rate is six per 100,000 per year, and the aggravated assault rate is four per 1,000 per year. What this means is that the vast majority of Americans are not inclined to hurt one another. Some estimates say that two million Americans are victims of violent crimes every year, a tragic, staggering number, perhaps an all-time record rate of violent crime. But there are almost 300 million Americans, which means that the odds of being a victim of violent crime is considerably less than one in a hundred on any given year. Furthermore, since many violent crimes are committed by repeat offenders, the actual number of violent citizens is considerably less than two million.

Thus there is a paradox, and we must grasp both ends of the situation: We may well be in the most violent times in history, but violence is still remarkably rare. This is because most citizens are kind, decent people who are not capable of hurting each other, except by accident or under extreme provocation. They are sheep.

I mean nothing negative by calling them sheep. To me it is like the pretty, blue robin's egg. Inside it is soft and gooey but someday it will grow into something wonderful. But the egg cannot survive without its hard blue shell. Police officers, soldiers, and other warriors are like that shell, and someday the civilization they protect will grow into something wonderful.? For now, though, they need warriors to protect them from the predators.

"Then there are the wolves," the old war veteran said, "and the wolves feed on the sheep without mercy." Do you believe there are wolves out there who will feed on the flock without mercy? You better believe it. There are evil men in this world and they are capable of evil deeds. The moment you forget that or pretend it is not so, you become a sheep. There is no safety in denial.

"Then there are sheepdogs," he went on, "and I'm a sheepdog. I live to protect the flock and confront the wolf." If you have no capacity for violence then you are a healthy productive citizen, a sheep. If you have a capacity for violence and no empathy for your fellow citizens, then you have defined an aggressive sociopath, a wolf. But what if you have a capacity for violence, and a deep love for your fellow citizens? What do you have then? A sheepdog, a warrior, someone who is walking the hero's path. Someone who can walk into the heart of darkness, into the universal human phobia, and walk out unscathed.

Let me expand on this old soldier's excellent model of the sheep, wolves, and sheepdogs. We know that the sheep live in denial, that is what makes them sheep. They do not want to believe that there is evil in the world. They can accept the fact that fires can happen, which is why they want fire extinguishers, fire sprinklers, fire alarms and fire exits throughout their kids' schools.

But many of them are outraged at the idea of putting an armed police officer in their kid's school. Our children are thousands of times more likely to be killed or seriously injured by school violence than fire, but the sheep's only response to the possibility of violence is denial. The idea of someone coming to kill or harm their child is just too hard, and so they chose the path of denial.

The sheep generally do not like the sheepdog. He looks a lot like the wolf. He has fangs and the capacity for violence. The difference, though, is that the sheepdog must not, cannot and will not ever harm the sheep. Any sheep dog who intentionally harms the lowliest little lamb will be punished and removed. The world cannot work any other way, at least not in a representative democracy or a republic such as ours.

Still, the sheepdog disturbs the sheep. He is a constant reminder that there are wolves in the land. They would prefer that he didn't tell them where to go, or give them traffic tickets, or stand at the ready in our airports in camouflage fatigues holding an M-16. The sheep would much rather have the sheepdog cash in his fangs, spray paint himself white, and go, "Baa."

Until the wolf shows up. Then the entire flock tries desperately to hide behind one lonely sheepdog. The students, the victims, at Columbine High School were big, tough high school students, and under ordinary circumstances they would not have had the time of day for a police officer. They were not bad kids; they just had nothing to say to a cop. When the school was under attack, however, and SWAT teams were clearing the rooms and hallways, the officers had to physically peel those clinging, sobbing kids off of them. This is how the little lambs feel about their sheepdog when the wolf is at the door.

Look at what happened after September 11, 2001 when the wolf pounded hard on the door. Remember how America, more than ever before, felt differently about their law enforcement officers and military personnel? Remember how many times you heard the word hero?

Understand that there is nothing morally superior about being a sheepdog; it is just what you choose to be. Also understand that a sheepdog is a funny critter: He is always sniffing around out on the perimeter, checking the breeze, barking at things that go bump in the night, and yearning for a righteous battle. That is, the young sheepdogs yearn for a righteous battle. The old sheepdogs are a little older and wiser, but they move to the sound of the guns when needed right along with the young ones.

Here is how the sheep and the sheepdog think differently. The sheep pretend the wolf will never come, but the sheepdog lives for that day. After the attacks on September 11, 2001, most of the sheep, that is, most citizens in America said, "Thank God I wasn't on one of those planes." The sheepdogs, the warriors, said, "Dear God, I wish I could have been on one of those planes. Maybe I could have made a difference." When you are truly transformed into a warrior and have truly invested yourself into warriorhood, you want to be there. You want to be able to make a difference.

There is nothing morally superior about the sheepdog, the warrior, but he does have one real advantage. Only one. And that is that he is able to survive and thrive in an environment that destroys 98 percent of the population. There was research conducted a few years ago with individuals convicted of violent crimes. These cons were in prison for serious, predatory crimes of violence: assaults, murders and killing law enforcement officers. The vast majority said that they specifically targeted victims by body language: slumped walk, passive behavior and lack of awareness. They chose their victims like big cats do in Africa, when they select one out of the herd that is least able to protect itself.

Some people may be destined to be sheep and others might be genetically primed to be wolves or sheepdogs. But I believe that most people can choose which one they want to be, and I'm proud to say that more and more Americans are choosing to become sheepdogs. Seven months after the attack on September 11, 2001, Todd Beamer was honored in his hometown of Cranbury, New Jersey. Todd, as you recall, was the man on Flight 93 over Pennsylvania who called on his cell phone to alert an operator from United Airlines about the hijacking. When he learned of the other three passenger planes that had been used as weapons, Todd dropped his phone and uttered the words, "Let's roll," which authorities believe was a signal to the other passengers to confront the terrorist hijackers. In one hour, a transformation occurred among the passengers - athletes, business people and parents. -- from sheep to sheepdogs and together they fought the wolves, ultimately saving an unknown number of lives on the ground.

There is no safety for honest men except by believing all possible evil of evil men. - Edmund Burke Here is the point I like to emphasize, especially to the thousands of police officers and soldiers I speak to each year. In nature the sheep, real sheep, are born as sheep. Sheepdogs are born that way, and so are wolves. They didn't have a choice. But you are not a critter. As a human being, you can be whatever you want to be. It is a conscious, moral decision. If you want to be a sheep, then you can be a sheep and that is okay, but you must understand the price you pay. When the wolf comes, you and your loved ones are going to die if there is not a sheepdog there to protect you. If you want to be a wolf, you can be one, but the sheepdogs are going to hunt you down and you will never have rest, safety, trust or love. But if you want to be a sheepdog and walk the warrior's path, then you must make a conscious and moral decision every day to dedicate, equip and prepare yourself to thrive in that toxic, corrosive moment when the wolf comes knocking at the door.

For example, many officers carry their weapons in church? They are well concealed in ankle holsters, shoulder holsters or inside-the-belt holsters tucked into the small of their backs.? Anytime you go to some form of religious service, there is a very good chance that a police officer in your congregation is carrying. You will never know if there is such an individual in your place of worship, until the wolf appears to massacre you and your loved ones. I was training a group of police officers in Texas, and during the break, one officer asked his friend if he carried his weapon in church. The other cop replied, "I will never be caught without my gun in church." I asked why he felt so strongly about this, and he told me about a cop he knew who was at a church massacre in Ft. Worth, Texas in 1999. In that incident, a mentally deranged individual came into the church and opened fire, gunning down fourteen people. He said that officer believed he could have saved every life that day if he had been carrying his gun. His own son was shot, and all he could do was throw himself on the boy's body and wait to die. That cop looked me in the eye and said, "Do you have any idea how hard it would be to live with yourself after that?"

Some individuals would be horrified if they knew this police officer was carrying a weapon in church. They might call him paranoid and would probably scorn him. Yet these same individuals would be enraged and would call for "heads to roll" if they found out that the airbags in their cars were defective, or that the fire extinguisher and fire sprinklers in their kids' school did not work. They can accept the fact that fires and traffic accidents can happen and that there must be safeguards against them.

Their only response to the wolf, though, is denial, and all too often their response to the sheepdog is scorn and disdain. But the sheepdog quietly asks himself, "Do you have and idea how hard it would be to live with yourself if your loved ones attacked and killed, and you had to stand there helplessly because you were unprepared for that day?"

It is denial that turns people into sheep. Sheep are psychologically destroyed by combat because their only defense is denial, which is counterproductive and destructive, resulting in fear, helplessness and horror when the wolf shows up .

Denial kills you twice. It kills you once, at your moment of truth when you are not physically prepared: you didn't bring your gun, you didn't train. Your only defense was wishful thinking. Hope is not a strategy. Denial kills you a second time because even if you do physically survive, you are psychologically shattered by your fear helplessness and horror at your moment of truth.

Gavin de Becker puts it like this in Fear Less, his superb post-9/11 book, which should be required reading for anyone trying to come to terms with our current world situation: "...denial can be seductive, but it has an insidious side effect. For all the peace of mind deniers think they get by saying it isn't so, the fall they take when faced with new violence is all the more unsettling."

Denial is a save-now-pay-later scheme, a contract written entirely in small print, for in the long run, the denying person knows the truth on some level. And so the warrior must strive to confront denial in all aspects of his life, and prepare himself for the day when evil comes. If you are warrior who is legally authorized to carry a weapon and you step outside without that weapon, then you become a sheep, pretending that the bad man will not come today. No one can be "on" 24/7, for a lifetime. Everyone needs down time. But if you are authorized to carry a weapon, and you walk outside without it, just take a deep breath, and say this to yourself "Baa."

This business of being a sheep or a sheep dog is not a yes-no dichotomy. It is not an all-or-nothing, either-or choice. It is a matter of degrees, a continuum. On one end is an abject, head-in-the-sand-sheep and on the other end is the ultimate warrior. Few people exist completely on one end or the other. Most of us live somewhere in between. Since 9-11 almost everyone in America took a step up that continuum, away from denial. The sheep took a few steps toward accepting and appreciating their warriors, and the warriors started taking their job more seriously. The degree to which you move up that continuum, away from sheephood and denial, is the degree to which you and your loved ones will survive, physically and psychologically at your moment of truth.


I really love remembering a time when horses were valued and needed. When they were depended on and a way of life. I think it was a better time for man and horse. How soon people forget how the horse saved and contributed to this country and how important they were to our success, our future and our history.


This horse did NOT want to bite this guy? If you don't know why - watch the video.

Click here for video I did on this horse bite incident.



Arguing with people about what is right or wrong for the horse is not worthy. People believe what they want to believe. They will defend what they think is right, no matter how much reason or evidence there is that disproves their beliefs. Do not waste your time correcting them. Being successful with your horse is the goal, not making others know you are right.


I love Albert, his insight is truely Brilliant.


I love this Picture

Notice that this horse has a bosal on. In very cold temps metal bits can stick to a horse's lips and moisture causing more pain and discomfort. Keeping the horse's mouth clear allows the horse to keep him mouth closed and allow the horse to eat or drink without a bit. I think the story behind this is a the calf got separated from it's mother and was lost. Since the owner takes his ownership of his critters seriously, the calf was able to be saved. When we lock up animals we have to take that responsibility seriously and protect and provide for them. There is something about being out in a place with your horse when it is just you and your horse and you have to depend on each other for help and survival. A wonderful moment preserved here in this picture.


I Can Make Knowledge Available - I Cannot Make you Use it

This is a play on the saying you can lead a horse to water but you cannot make him drink.


Some Horse People Appear Bright


I Disagree With The Picture Below - Are Horses Really Better Off?


If you think you can or think you cannot - You Are Probably Right


There is Truth in Some Jokes

There is a bad and dangerous tread in the horse world. Too many people are unfamiliar with horse and do not understanding them, so they fear them. This fear has created a belief that if you get a smaller horse, you can control him better - And if you start a horse younger, when it is weaker and not fully grown, you will be able to control them better and over power them since they are younger and weaker.

Both these beliefs are false. What really happens is people THINK they are winning and doing good since they pick on a young weak horse that cannot fight back very well. What they are really doing is very different. They are stealing rides and youth from young horses. They are falsely convincing themselves that they are getting better when in fact they are not learning and not helping the horse - they are cheating the horse and themselves.


Perception of Fear is Reality - We See what we believe

In the above picture the term perception is reality plays true. I cannot tell you the number of people that I believe see horses this way. When I see people around horses being nervous, scared, overly careful, jumpy, fearful, uncomfortable, uneasy, flinching and their body language just screams insecurity, fear and distrust.

I get so many questions and request for help from people who love horses and but are scared of them. If you expect a horse to hurt you, the odds are you and your actions or reactions will make that expectation come true. Most people avoid things that scare them. However, with horses, their beauty, size and strength attract people that are scared of them. This combination is not good for horse or human. Since horses are so observant and pay such close attention to body language, they know fear, they know mistrust, their instincts tell them to be mistrusting of predators. So a horse's fear is very natural, instinctual and very misunderstood by humans. Humans think they are smarter and at the top of all animals, our instinct is to conquer and control. Not the best approach to work and develop a partnership and working relationship.


A True Horseman Knows They Never Know It All

As long as you accept you don't know it all, then you are willing to learn. You should always be a student of the Horse; never be foolish and believe you are the Master.


Power ?

Humans think just because they have power of other animals, it makes them smarter or better. Having power and not using it is a true test of character. Only the weak use power on those that cannot defend themselves or won't fight back. Albert Camus said: "There is nothing more despicable than respect based on fear." Yet talk to 90 percent of the so called horse experts and their first piece of advice is "Show the horse who is boss", nothing further from the truth, yet it is the number one thing you hear from so called horse experts.


Truth Will Set You Free - But First It Will Piss You Off

People have egos and don't like to be wrong and don't like to admit they are wrong. Especially when strong emotion is involved. Horse owners are like parents, their kid is never wrong and it they are it is not their fault. The same is true with human horse parents, their horse is always better or best and if their horse is bad or wrong, it is never their fault. "The bitterest truth is better than the sweetest lie."



Horse Head Cars

A little Horsey History: When cars first came out in the 1900's they spooked and scared a lot of horses. Fake horse heads were mounted on some cars so horses would not spook and throw riders or run off. It did not work as well as they expected and it soon disappeared. Can you imagine a time when cars were the rare thing and horses were normal? Not that long ago. How soon we forget how horses built America.


Sound familiar - A horse may get hurt if with other horses, it is safe locked in a stall alone?


This is for all the life long horse owners that defend bits, spurs, tight reins and all the sports that harm horses.


I am told I am mean & sharp - I try to speak what I see as Truth


Another horse sport that abuses horses and uses them for entertainment and money at the expense of the horse. How can anyone not see the fear, wide eyes, pain and panic. Notice the metal kind bits being pulled in different directions in the poor little horses mouth. Circus' may be fun but is a horrible life for animals forced to perform.


People focus on why I am not nice and say if I would be nicer more people would listen, if I did not call people stupid they would listen. I do not try to convince people of the truth.


In the picture below this rider is a disaster looking for a place to happen. The bit appears to be tied to halter, she has no heels on her shoes, which means her foot and shoe can slide through the stirrup, trapping the foot and ankle. The horse is NOT comfortable his face, tight lips, pinned ears all say nervous and insecure. No saddle pad means the saddle is probably hurting the back and putting pressure points on the horses back. The REAR CINCH is extremely dangerous. Since there is not cinch connector between the front and rear cinch, the cinch is allowed to slide back in the Flank area of the horse where it irritates the sensitive under belly, which is exactly where they put it on Bucking horses, to make them buck. Now, when this horse bucks or flips over, the horse will be killed or put down because people will say the horse was crazy or mean. This horse has no choices but will get all the blame and consequences. Very sad and dangerous situation.


Do Not let others tell you what can and can't be done.



Horses know what is best. Too many people would call this horse stupid or crazy for doing this. This is a horse is using his instincts to give himself mud, sun and insect protection.

In today's horse world, this horse would be locked up to keep it clean and pretty. Horses know how to be horses, if stupid humans would just stay out of the way and stop trying to save and protect them.




To all the Haters, Barn Witches, Know it alls and Life Long Horse Owners that refuse to learn.












A Colt and Kid meets, no fear, no suspicion, no distrust - just two innoncent creatures discovering.


A horse is not evil or bad - it is a responsive being that wants comfort and to survive - it is born that way.
Horses do what they think they are supposed to do, what they think they have to do or what they need to do -
They do NOT do things to be mean, bad or for love.



Great Picture & Great Message - It is talking about the Human Not the Dog





When You Change - Your Horse Will Change



We all make mistakes when learning about horses - horses forgive us


Too many new horses owners wish they could do better, hope and try, but they fail



This appllies to being open to No Bits, No Spurs, No Chains and No Whips


Me before I do a video


The Horse world a is very "pressure oriented" place - with lots of bad popular advice


Making a Difference

I am often told that what I am doing will never change The Horse World since it is too far gone and too much money involved. So I tell this story:

There was once an old man and a child walking on the beach together. While walking they approach an area where thousands of fish are washed up on the beach flipping and flopping on the sand.

The little boy picks up one of the fish and throws it back in the water.

The old man laughs and says: "You think you can make a difference in all these 1000's of dying fish by doing that?"

The boy looks up at the man and says: "It made a difference for that one."


Doing the same thing or trying to prevent something does not always work out like we plan.

"One often meets on his destiny on the road he takes to avoid it."


The Story of an Ass and a Married Couple:




Once there was a couple that had a donkey. This couple traveled a long road to and from the market through several villages.

As they passed the first village, they were riding the donkey and the people said they were mean for making the donkey carry them, so they got off and walked with the donkey.

At the next village, the people said they were stupid for walking and one should ride the donkey. So the man let his wife ride.

At the next village, the people said the wife should be a better wife and since her husband worked all day in the fields that she should let him ride. So they switched.

At the last village, right before they had to cross a long swinging bridge across a large ravine, the people said they should be ashamed that they made their mule carry them since it worked and plowed their fields for the food they ate and that should carry the donkey and not make him walk. So they picked up the donkey and carried him.

While crossing the swinging bridge, the wind blew, making the bridge swing and the couple dropped their donkey to it's death.

The moral to the story:

You cannot please everyone all the time and if you try, you will lose your ass.


You will get lots of free advice in the horse world from people who think they know best - don't do things to your horse that can get it hurt or risk danger - just because lots of people give free advice. Your horse, your responsibility - the horse does not care if the advice was bad and caused the injury or death. However, it is a nice easy excuse for lazy people to blame others for what they do their horse.


My Advice To People that Say I am Mean


OK let me get this straight - you buy a 1200 pound wild reactionary instinctive flight or fight animal that has the power and ability to kill you or hurt you - you don't do your homework or research before you buy and now that you own this horse, you finally figure out not knowing what you are doing could get you hurt or killed - so you seek me out, ask me for help and say I don't like the way you talk, and you do not make me feel loved, so I don't want your help.

Brilliant - in other words I would rather risk my life then get information that could save me?

When people tell me this I refer them to my Mean Directions Story:

When you are lost and driving in the wrong direction heading for danger, running out of gas and you stop and ask for directions, if the person that tells you which way to go, but says it mean - Do you continue to go in the wrong direction just for spite until you find someone who gives you directions nicely? If you do - you give a new meaning to what a fool is.




Too often horses are labeled & sold for being stupid or dangerous - this creates horses with a past & no future.


The story goes: Marcus Aurelius Was a Roman Emperor, Horseman & Philosopher

I am reminded of a story when I see people worshiping the so called great horse whisperers, trainers & Natural Horsemen. These people follow without question, admire and worship these so called great men and women. I also see these same famous people becoming arrogant and using the horse for their fame, for profit and forgetting that - A horse is still a horse without a horseman - But a Horseman is only a man without a horse.

As the legend has it, Marcus Aurelius being fully aware of how power can corrupt a man, he hired a servant to follow him as he walked the empire’s streets. Every time a citizen bowed to him, took a knee for him or called out some compliment or word of praise, Marcus Aurelius instructed the servant to whisper in his ear, "You're just a man. You're just a man."

He knew that the best way to test a man’s character was to give him power and fame.

- A wise man he was





Unfortunately this is The Horse World




For the people saying bitless is dangerous and can't be done -

Because something is difficult for you
Don't think it is impossible for someone else


Respect the Bull




Until you have been put in a tree by a bull, you really can't appreciate the full meaning of this sign. When I was kid, me and a buddy were killing time in Texas, looking for pop bottles, walking railroad tracks and playing with cows. We decided to to mess a cow in a pasture and see if we could tip it over. About 3/4 of the way in, we realized it was not a cow but was a bull. We the chasers became the runners. Lucky for us there was a large tree in the middle of this pasture. We managed to beat the bull up the tree and thought we won, we were all happy to be alive and high fiving. The bull then decided to lay down under the tree in the shade. Three hours later, after peeing from a tree, the bull was not moving. About a hour later, the bull started grazing and got a little distance from the tree and we decided to make our move. Two dumass kids running for our lives, jumping a barbed wire fence at mach 1, only stopping after we were on the other side of the fence, where we decided to talk smack to the bull. That was our last cow tipping adventure. Wish this sign was posted on that pasture.






Women run the horse world. Unfortunately they leaned too well the cruel ways of the men before them. However, if you call them cruel or stupid, then you are sexist. This is ignorant no matter who does it - but it takes SOMEONE to step up and say It is Wrong.


I always hear crazy excuses for locking up horses, separating horses, keeping horses alone and not allowing horses to be in a herd. Then I see this and think, how can anyone not see that horses do not kill other horses and locking them up is foolish?


Once again, I hear bits are for communication, they do not hurt the horse, it is the hands - Bits are pain archaic devices and should be outlawed - if you can't ride without one, then maybe you should not be riding. There is NO beauty in Pain and even less communication. How can a horse trust you or hear what you ask if he is in pain?


If you listen to the Helmet People - horse back riding it most dangerous sport in the world. For the inexperience, unknowing, fearful and those who lack confidence, it may very well be. A helmet never made a horse safer.

Negativity Bias In the The Brain:

Bad memories are stored faster and remembered more accurately than positive ones.

This is to help avoid repeating dangerous mistakes.


The Story of a Chinese Farmer


Once upon a time there was a Chinese Farmer who lost a horse and the horse ran away.

And that evening all neighbors came around and said that's too bad

And the Farmer said, Maybe?

And the next day the horse returned and brought with him seven other wild horses.

And that evening all the neighbors came and said that is great isn't it.

And the Framer said, Maybe?

The next day his son was riding and trying to tame one of the horses and was thrown and broke his leg.

And all the neighbors came and said that is really bad isn't it

And the Framer said, Maybe?

The next day the army officers came by looking for soldiers and they saw his son had a broken leg and so they rejected his son because of the broken leg.

And all the neighbors came and said isn't the wonderful

And the Framer said Maybe?

The whole process of nature is an integrated process of immense complexity and it is really impossible to tell weather anything that happens is either good or bad.

Because you never know what will be the consequences of the misfortunes and you never know what will be the consequences of good fortune.

**When you see a horse know that he does not know right or wrong. Those words have no meaning to a horse. They know instincts, survival, release of pressure, consequences of their decision, easy or hard, looking for the right response for them to find comfort and release of pressure and or safety. When learning a horse does not know if something is good or bad or what will be the consequences will be, until they are taught.

Here is an animated video of The Chinese Farmer. (CLICK HERE)


The Five Monkeys Experiment


An experimenter puts 5 monkeys in a large cage. High up at the top of the cage, well beyond the reach of the monkeys, is a bunch of bananas. Underneath the bananas is a ladder.

The monkeys immediately spot the bananas and one begins to climb the ladder. As he does, however, the experimenter sprays him with a stream of cold water. Then, he proceeds to spray each of the other monkeys.

The monkey on the ladder scrambles off. And all 5 sit for a time on the floor, wet, cold, and bewildered. Soon, though, the temptation of the bananas is too great, and another monkey begins to climb the ladder. Again, the experimenter sprays the ambitious monkey with cold water and all the other monkeys as well. When a third monkey tries to climb the ladder, the other monkeys, wanting to avoid the cold spray, pull him off the ladder and beat him. The monkeys learned to associate going up the ladder with getting sprayed.

Now one monkey is removed and a new monkey is introduced to the cage. Spotting the bananas, he naively begins to climb the ladder. The other monkeys pull him off and beat him.

Here’s where it gets interesting. The experimenter removes a second one of the original monkeys from the cage and replaces him with a new monkey. Again, the new monkey begins to climb the ladder and, again, the other monkeys pull him off and beat him – including the monkey who had never been sprayed. Each original monkey is removed until no monkey that has ever been sprayed is still in the cage.

By the end of the experiment, none of the original monkeys were left and yet, despite none of them ever experiencing the cold, wet, spray, they had all learned never to try and go for the bananas and they would continue to beat any new monkey that tied.

If you could ask the Monkeys why they don't go for the Banana and why they beat others for trying, they would probably say:

That is just how it has always been done.

So, when people ask me why people still use archaic pain bits, horse shoes and barbaric training practices on horses, my answer is no good reason except "That is just how it has always been done."



HOW IS YOUR MORALS?

This is a great little test and appears somewhat accurate. I have given this several people over the years and it is right more than it is wrong.

How moral are you? What is your attitude to morals, sex and honesty? The fascinating personality test below was written by a Sydney marriage expert who is a qualified psychologist. It began as a dinner party conversation gimmick, but it has been prepared in this form for readers to test themselves. To do the "test" you must give your honest opinion about morals and honesty of the four characters in our story of Sherwood Forest. Forget any preconceived ideas you may about them - this is a different sort of story from all the others.

"The Sheriff of Nottingham captured Little John and Robin Hood and imprisoned them in his maximum - security dungeon. Maid Marion begged the Sheriff for their release, pleading her love for Robin. The Sheriff agreed to release them only if Maid Marion spent the night with him. To this she agreed. The next morning the Sheriff released his prisoners. Robin at once demanded that Marion tell him how she persuaded the Sheriff to let them go free. Marion confessed the truth, and was bewildered when Robin abused her, calling her a slut, and saying that he never wanted to see her again. At this Little John defended her, inviting her to leave Sherwood with him and promising life-long devotion. She accepted and they rode away together."

Now in terms of realistic everyday standards of behavior, put Robin, Marion, Little John, and the Sheriff in the order in which you consider they showed the most morality and honesty. There is no "right" answer, and the following is the psychologist's estimate of you for each of the 24 arrangements.


Conclusions:

1. ROBIN, MARION, SHERIFF, LITTLE JOHN: You find it hard to accept the permissive attitudes of others, or to convince them of the validity of your own standards. You are not disposed to trust people and do not have a very happy life. (Men) To you "love" involves sex and duty, rather than charity and forgiveness. (Women) You blame men for much of the unhappiness in your life.

2. ROBIN, MARION, LITTLE JOHN, SHERIFF: Your philosophy of life is a hotchpotch of the conventions of society, your own convictions and romanticism. You are not unkind, only staid and unimaginative. (Men) You see a woman as weak but desirable. (Women) Your resent the arrogance of men.

3. ROBIN, SHERIFF, MARION, LITTLE JOHN: As a ruthless authoritarian you are as moral as it suits you and no more. You do not apply the same rules to men as you do to women. (Men) We think you are unhappy, although you probably will not admit it. (Women) How worthless you seem to think women are.

4. ROBIN, SHERIFF, LITTLE JOHN, MARION: You have a very chauvinistic and outdated outlook on life. Your values and principles are defined not by clarity of conscience but by popular beliefs. Men: You see women as objects and possessions. You demand complete loyalty and devotion without offering it in return. Women: You see yourself as having only one purpose in life - to satisfy your man. You lack self definition as you derive all of who you are from him.

5. ROBIN, LITTLE JOHN, MARION, SHERIFF: You are a moralist with conventional ideas, which some people would call old-fashioned. (Men) You probably consider yourself a fair-minded man in a world which falls badly below your standards. Your inhibitions and sense of guilt are in the way of your happiness. (Women) Unlucky in love? Perhaps you hope for too much in a man. Be a realist, not a romantic.

6. ROBIN, LITTLE JOHN, SHERIFF, MARION: You are conventional and puritanical. (Men) You moralize and see women as a great conspiracy against man, with sex as their principal weapon. You are missing a great deal in life. (Women) Your parents probably played a big part in the formation of such a guilt complex as yours. Your mind is in chains and it's time you did something to free it.

7. LITTLE JOHN, ROBIN, SHERIFF, MARION: You are not easy to assess. Basically you are ruled by an inferiority complex and feelings of insecurity. How do you present yourself to the world? An idealist, a moralist, a conformist keeping up with the Jones? (Men) Your conflicting views on sex and morality may lead to every sort of sexual problem. You have always feared women, probably starting with your mother. (Women) It is a shame you have not accepted the ideal of woman as the equal (and sometimes stronger) partner of man.

8. LITTLE JOHN, MARION, ROBIN, SHERIFF: You are fairly broadminded romantic and reasonably contented. You value kindness greatly and try to live by your ideals. You do not conceal from yourself, or from others, your strong need for security, which may be either emotional or material. (Men) Perhaps you tend to idealize women and credit them with virtues they don't possess. (Women) Your experiences of men have not all been happy, perhaps because you hope for a little too much?

9. LITTLE JOHN, MARION, SHERIFF, ROBIN: You are the slightly romantic realist. You respect truth, and are broadminded and flexible. Whether you are a man or a woman you are probably a happy person. You like people and they can readily make friends with you. You are not very adventurous, but this does not bother you.

10. LITTLE JOHN, ROBIN, MARION, SHERIFF: You are a cautious type, neutral, and rather insecure. You would agree with the idea that everybody has his price - and in your own case it would not be high. (Men) You are sexually inhibited with an underlying distrust of women. (Women) At least one man has made you unhappy, and you are now on your guard.

11. LITTLE JOHN, SHERIFF, MARION, ROBIN: You too, believe that morality is another word for common-sense and suitability, and not something which is universally valid or a religious truth. Your feeling for security is strong, and you would rate reliability as one of your virtues. (Men) Your estimate of women as the inferior sex suggests that you are a little uncertain of them. (Women) You are more permissive about the morals of others than you are about your own.

12. LITTLE JOHN, SHERIFF, ROBIN, MARION: You are conventional, unimaginative, and something of a prude. It would be surprising if your love life was a roaring success. (Man) You have an old-world authoritarian attitude. One thing is sure - you have some sorry illusions about women. (Women) You accept a double standard of morality in which women are very much the "second sex".

13. MARION, SHERIFF, ROBIN, LITTLE JOHN: Associate morality with honest and truth more than with religious values. You are impulsive and somewhat unpredictable. (Men) We suspect that you are a would-be lover rather than a very successful one. (Women) You are a realist and a rebel, a defender of women's rights. You like men but despise weak ones.

14. MARION, SHERIFF, LITTLE JOHN, ROBIN: Such an emphatic rejection of ready-made values in probably partly camouflage. You hate to be thought weak or insecure. You value honesty, and abominate humbug and hypocrisy. (Men) Women are very much part of you life, and you are - or perhaps would like to be - quite ruthless, both with women and life in general. (Women) You are tolerant about men and their failings - but we mean men, for you have no time for boys on men's errands.

15. MARION, ROBIN, SHERIFF, LITTLE JOHN: You know the so-called facts of life, but not to enjoy life itself. You are not a realist and you are inclined to be stubborn. (Men) Women, you think, are either whores or angels, and you over-estimate the differences between the sexes. A woman may find you difficult to live with. (Women) You are not sure whether truth and morality go hand in hand or are in opposition. You haven't a very high opinion of men.

16, MARION, ROBIN, LITTLE JOHN, SHERIFF: If you are not happy - and we suspect you are not - it maybe because you feel guilty about your own emotions, and lack confidence in your opinions. (Men) No doubt you consider yourself a moral man, and a fair one. Your fuzzy ideas about morality may make their mark on your sex life. (Women) You are too concerned about what others think.

17. MARION, LITTLE JOHN, SHERIFF, ROBIN: You are essentially a contented person, even if you consider yourself a little superior. You are moral by your own standards, for you believe that morality is what best suits the occasion. (Men) You are sexually uninhibited, more romantic than you may appear, and more dependent on the approval of others than you care to admit. (Women) You like being a woman, you understand what love is, and frankly enjoy sex.

18. MARION, LITTLE JOHN, ROBIN, SHERIFF: We would expect you to be a happy, well-balanced person who likes people and is liked by others. You question whether many conventional views on morality are valid under all circumstances. (Men) Do we detect a sense of chivalry and idealism under the sophistication? (Women) You will expect high standards from the men to whom you give your love.

19, SHERIFF, ROBIN, MARION, LITTLE JOHN: (Man) We find it hard to imagine you leading a full, happy life. The warmth and give-and-take of love are not for you. Your sex life is ringed with unreality, and you neither understand nor appreciate women. (Women) If you really believe this is the right order, you baffle us completely.

20, SHERIFF, ROBIN, LITTLE JOHN, MARION: Although you make a brave show of being self-sufficient, beneath this you are unhappy and rather mixed up. (Men) You don't understand women - probably you are afraid of them. You do not know what love is, and you are more likely to boast about your conquests in a bar than prove them in a bedroom. (Women) If men attract you at all, they probably be disastrously the wrong sort.

21. SHERIFF, MARION, ROBIN, LITTLE JOHN: If you are not living a happy life the cause is within yourself. You are a rebel...with a trace of spoilt child about you. You value truth above morality, but you are reasonably tolerant of those who disagree with you. (Men) any problems you have are not likely to be centered in sex. (Women) Despite your experience and intelligence you are a bad judge of men.

22. SHERIFF, MARION, LITTLE JOHN, ROBIN: You claim to be a realist or even a cynic, but you are more emotional and romantic and truthful. (Men) although you are by no means inhibited, your amorous adventures are as much a matter of fantasy as fact. (Women) You have been hurt in the past by men -or perhaps a particular man and will probably let it happen again.

23. SHERIFF, LITTLE JOHN, ROBIN, MARION: Not a moralizing pattern, but...(Men) You share with many other men the idea that most women are fickle and inferior to men. Perhaps a view that you got from your father? Or as a reaction to a domineering mother? (Women) You have a pretty poor opinion of yourself, haven't you?

24. SHERIFF, LITTLE JOHN, MARION, ROBIN: You have a confused, immature sense of values. You are erratic and stubborn, and inclined to get angry or sulk when you don't get your own way. But at least you are not a moral hypocrite. (Men) "Love 'em and leave 'em" is the motto of a man who is basically afraid of women. (Women) Perhaps you would rather be a man than a woman?

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